Wow sounds like me and my ex.......you are just having a hard time moving on because he was FAMILIAR to you....stop thinking about him, get rid of anything that reminds you of him and move on with the new guy. The ex sounds like a charmer and a pathological liar....you said yourself the relationship was based on a lie. dont let him manipulate you into feeling sorry for him. he obviously didnt care enough about the relationship to begin with to be lying to you (no matter how long ago it was).