Breakup Advice? Now she is getting closer. Confused? She fell she made a mistake?

lillyrose_33 · #1 (**permalink**) 05-24-2009, 11:37 PM

Me and this girl are dating for 3 months. All of a sudden she says that she feels its not going anywhere. BUT she calls me and texts me like we are still dating. Today she texts me twice and calls me and I did?t respond until an hour later and she thinks I am ignoring her. Is this a game???? I really like her and i felt we really never got to know each other well enough. We clicked very very well. Had sex 2 times and enjoyed each other company. Anyone have any life experiences to share etc.. I am 30 she 26.Why would she think I am ignoring her if she broke it off? Any advice or anything .. PLEASE. Could she just be thinking of still being with me as a boyfriend?
Last night she invited me out to dinner then back to her house. I told her I thought she was confused and unsure of what she wanted. She really did?t say much to that. We were happy together last night. She keeps saying we are friends but I don?t understand. Could it be she is just starting to have a lot of feelings and she is now terrified of being hurt or is she just being nice? What do you girls and guys think??? Next day I told her I was moving on and she was scared? Later that night we hung out and she had unprotected sex with me and she is starting to get close with me again! Is she testing me or what?? She always wants me to stay with her and we are always talking. Is she just fearful of commitment or what? Any Advice/Life experiences to share??

Jay Aka. ngerkday · #2 (**permalink**) 05-27-2009, 11:37 PM

Shes playing games - its all a power struggle. Dont play the game, let her chase you. If she do sent want you move on and find someone else. Dont let her control you life, you end up waiting for your phone to ring or a text to come in. Let her think you agree its not going anywhere - call her bluff.

Gemma S · #3 (**permalink**) 05-29-2009, 11:37 PM

She is playing a terrible mind game with you. sounds like she is confused, break it off, because you are letting her hurt herself. With answering any of her phone calls.

closofftrack · #4 (**permalink**) 05-30-2009, 11:37 PM

Perhaos previous relationships have gone badly for her so she just wants to take it slower this time as you may mean more to her than the others.

However, it may mean that she sees you as an easy target and just wants someone she can have no-strings-attached sex with and you are giving this to her but you should be using contraception unless you want an unwanted pregnancy on your hands. This is not a stable relationship for a child to be brought into.

Rachie · #5 (**permalink**) 06-01-2009, 11:37 PM

I have had similar experiences with females and myself. I think she probably likes "the game" you know like the butterfly's in your stomach when you are with them, the always wanting to call them and be with them. I would say you should just in a sense sit back and let her do whatever she is going to to do. If she does want to stay with you then I'm sure you will know.

twilighter1901 · #6 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 11:37 PM

It is clearly a game, but I don't think it's meant in a nasty way. I've behaved a bit like this in the past. In my experience, men (and don't take this the wrong way, guys), can come across a little nonchalant in relationships and seem like they're talking their girl for granted. Some women will say they're ending a relationship (and I have to say, I have been guilty of this is in the past) just to provoke a reaction and to give the guy a bit of a wake-up call. They just want to see that the guy cares enough to fight for the relationship.