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Here is the joist of it.. been with my bf for 2 yrs. he is a cheater and he lies, and YES i know it was stupid to stay. I am 30 he 39. He has potential but I just can't deal with the drama anymore. He is in a band and lives that lifestyle, which i am not trying to change but it is just not for me. So I ask: what is the best way to get over a broken heart? We spend every day together so I just don't know what to do with myself. I know I need to stay away from all of "our" friends because it will be too hurtful to know what he is up too or to run into him. He does not want us to end so I have to be strong... Tell me how?
I have faith in you! This is a hard thing to do. I am 25 and hes 29 and he has cheated with my best friend. it was hard and dint stay! it will only make things worse.
just tell him u cant do it.And if u break up with him of course its gonna hurt to hear about him, and what hes doing but that's something u have to face.It will get better with time
Take a vacation. It doesn't have to be expensive, visit someone out of state, go camping with friends, anything. Plus with summer coming, there's a lot to do stay entertained/distracted from broken hearts. Go to the beach, go jogging, for walks, meet up with friends for dinner...
I've been there, it's hard and takes time, sure. But much easier than the alternative, a life of misery.
I have that same problem.
Only my boyfriend of 18 months is not in a band.
He just likes to hang out with the wrong people.
Ever since his long time friend got out of jail my boyfriend has been out later. He even got a ticket for driving without a license.
When his friend was in jail he was pretty much out of trouble and with me most the time.
Lately we have been falling apart.
I'm lost and confused I do not know what to do.
Hope you find the advice you need to get out of that relationship. And when you do let me know. So when I decide it is time to cut him loose I can do that.
He's 39 and he's in a band? What a loser. That's like still playing Dungeons and Dragons when you're that age. Being in a band is for teenage and Prue-adult boys. Once you hit 30, game's over and you're supposed to grow up and stop chasing after women like a horn dog. You're supposed to be into golf or sailing by then and stop going to strip clubs.
So with that thought, use that fire. Tell him you want someone who is more grown up and acts his age. Someone that has a real job and will remember your birthday and send you flowers to work just because and doesn't have to look for other women or feel "important" to women by being in a band. Tell him that there is no point in you wasting each others time because you want someone that is marriage material down the line, and if you stay with him, you lose that opportunity because he's not the "marrying type". He probably won't disagree, which makes him a bigger POS. I bet he still plays video games and surfs porn on his Google phone within your company.
Then go home, drink some vodka and watch the movie "Someone Like You". That's what I do when someone breaks my heart. OR go out to the bar and drink some vodka and have some hot guy with potential hit on you and it will make you feel a whole lot better...seriously. Best way to get over someone is to find someone else. And I recommend really fast so there is no lag time and who cares if it's a rebound?
I'm only sixteen and the longest relationship I've ever had with a girlfriend has been 3 months... Pathetic I know... But what I think you should do is just get it over with... Be strong and put belief behind your words... You can't just linger around the thought of him being back with you... The best thing to do in my opinion is just get this over with...
Breakup Advice.. please help?
