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Just broke up with my girlfriend of 5+ years, and the mother of my 2 boys. This time apparently it's for real (we've broken up lots of time before). I took her a little more serious this time around but I was not ready to hear that she was already talking to another guy. We just had sex 3 weeks ago! She had been giving me hints that she'd consider taking me back if I changed my controlling ways. Why would she be telling me all this and even having sex with me still if she has another guy? She just starting talking to this guy 5 weeks ago and that night we had sex she told me they had each others numbers and were testing each other. That night she claimed they were just friends and only talked at work. She said it's just a work friend. I left infuriated and she begged me not leave mad. She even went as far as telling me she's stop talking to him if we got back together. She also revealed that she had given him a ride earlier that week. She swore it was just a ride. I told her I wasn't gonna be her fool. So we continued our breakup but I still had hope that she wasn't lying and he was just a friend. I focused myself becoming a better person for her. Everyone kept telling me to just move on now. I couldn't. She's the mother of my kids and I love her. I was determined to win her back but I still had a feeling that she was lying about her guy friend. This past Saturday I went to her work to spy on her. I saw her and him leaving together. She drove him to a house and they got out and went in together. I waited for 15 Min's but they didn't come out. I left home heartbroken. I was sure they were having sex. The next day I asked if she was with him. She denied it. Said I was crazy and making things up in my head. She denied and denied until she realized I wasn't lying about seeing them. She admitted she took him to a house that he was house sitting to feed animals. She said they were in there for 20 Min's and then they went to the movies together. After the movie they hugged and she dropped him off and went home. She swears they only hugged but also admitted they established that they both like each other. He said he's had a crush on her. She's 23, a single mom, recently broken up, recently got her own place, and looking for independent fun. He's a 19 y.o. co-worker who has a lot of friends that are girls. My main questions are these. Why has she been hinting that I could win her back? Why did she try to lie about what she's doing with him? (she says she was afraid I'd confront him) If we were done then why hide him? Is it possible that they didn't have sex? What's this guy's main plan? He can't possibly want to be with her. She's got 2 kids! I think he just wants the easy pussy. She's had 2 kids outta wedlock already. Is it possible she's how she says he is. A nice guy who isn't looking for sex, just friendship then relationship. That's what she claims. Also What should I do now? I don't know what to do. If I choose to believe her then in my mind she's just testing the waters. Should I wait to see if she realizes a 19 y.o. kid can't replace the father of her kids? Or should I just move on regardless? She lied about him that night. If I hadn't spied that night, I would've believed her. That's how convincing she sounded. Is she still lying? Did they have sex that night? I believe her that they haven't had sex. Am I blinded by love? Does it even matter anymore? I want her. We have kids. I always thought we'd be a family together. What should I do? I'm confused and lost and heartbroken.
OK I understand and appreciate what you 3 ladies said. We didn't marry because she wanted a nice wedding but we never had much money. We've both been trying to finish school. I didn't want to spend our money on a wedding CZ we had school, and kids to worry about. We always planned to marry once school was done and we had good jobs. Also our kids were with my parents that night. They were watching them for me while I was working. I was getting out of work and I went over to hers. I needed to see her lying to me. I didn't want her to come back to me later and claim nothing happened with her "just friend". Now I know. That's why I'm here. I need help making my decision now. I've asked family members and Friends as well. I'm still confused. I want alto of people's opinions. That's why I truly appreciate your points of view. Thank you.
it is possible that they are only friends and your jealousy is blinding your reason, it is also possible that she is keeping him on the side lines just in case you two don't get back together, maybe it is time to call it quits 5+ years and 2 children and she is still your ff, you two have children together either you want to be together as a family or you don't. but eight er way your both teaching your children it is OK to swing back and forth with each other
Wow!!....first of all don't stalk the woman. I understand that you love her and she is the mother of your children but you guys need to talk this out. If she does not want to then its time that you focused on your children and yourself. Its hard to let go of the one you love but all these games are getting you no where...if she wants to be with you she will be with you. If not let her go. Let her come back to you.
Recent breakup with baby mama. I need advice!?
