Advice on how to breakup with someone?

the new guy · #1 (**permalink**) 04-04-2009, 02:27 PM

I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and i still love him, but just as a friend now.

We hardly talk and its really hard to stay ion love with someone you struggle to make conversation with. We end up either finding other people to join the convoy, or standing there in silence =/

We also had sex for the first time about a month ago and i am worried he will think its about that =/

any help about what i could say to him to make it easier for both of us?

PS. I've never actually don the breaking up myself before, all Rx's have left me

shawty · #2 (**permalink**) 04-07-2009, 02:27 PM

Just tell him you feel you've grown apart and that there's nothing there for you two anymore.

Don H · #3 (**permalink**) 04-10-2009, 02:27 PM

Face to face say to the boyfriend: I no longer want to be in a relationship.

If pressed for details say: I no longer have romantic feelings towards you.

darkest_angel0o · #4 (**permalink**) 04-13-2009, 02:27 PM

tell him the truth. All you guys had was a spark and it ended. You dint have things to talk about anymore, if you were REALLY interested in the person and loved them you would always have things to talk about.. or maybe your days are just that boring. Lil but just be honest with him and tell him you need to end it because you dint have the same feelings for him. Say you waited long enough to see if you were truly losing feelings for him and you think its true. Tell him you will always love him and you want to remain friends. And see what happens, maybe you will miss him and get back together.

odimwitdwon · #5 (**permalink**) 04-14-2009, 02:27 PM

just be honest with him

Jammy · #6 (**permalink**) 04-19-2009, 02:27 PM

You guys should really have an open talk. You could try ask him something like "What do you think about us?". I mean...try to speak with him like you did here. I think that he's bothered by the awkwardness between you two also. So try to find a good moment to open this conversation.
I recommend night time, or evening, some place quiet or chill. The lack of too much light always works for me to speak my mind.

Reppin'L.A. · #7 (**permalink**) 04-23-2009, 02:27 PM

No one is ever going to say its an easy thing to do. It isn't. But like a plaster the quicker you tear it off the less it hurts. Leave it and drag it out causes all sorts of problems.

number1note · #8 (**permalink**) 04-27-2009, 02:27 PM

You could use this poem i heard:
You are like the sunflowers in my back garden, tall and handsome
you always made people smile when they saw you
but like the sunflowers, our season has ended
our love can no longer bloom since the sun has set on our relationship

but if this is too soppy, just tell him "it's not you, it's me" no matter who it is, guys wanna hear that it's not their fault the worst they could hear is "it's not me, it's you"
Hope this helps

hexeliebe · #9 (**permalink**) 04-30-2009, 02:27 PM

Tell him you've become a Jehovah's Witness and that even though you love him deeply you don't feel you can carry on your relationship unless he's prepared to come to church with you on Sundays and that you can no longer have a sexual relationship until you're married - and that you've decided you won't get married until you're at least 21.

Not only will he run as far and as fast as his legs will carry him, you'll have a lot of fun telling your girlfriends about it and describing the expression on his face.