I need some advice, since I feel terrible about myself after a breakup?

Charlotte w · #1 (**permalink**) 05-16-2010, 02:30 PM

My ex dumped me close to 4 months ago because she felt like we were getting too serious and she wanted to experience high school. Sadly after the breakup I got pathetic and desperate which created some arguments. After 2 weeks of not speaking we began talking on face book. I asked if we could take our friendship slow. She got furious and eventually tried to make me jealous by using one of my best friends. They never kissed and they never went out. I could tell she felt guilty even though she didn't have a reason to be so I tried speaking to her twice and she ignored me. I tried once more and she began talking to me. We were having a brutally slow and painful conversation about nothing. I told her how sorry I was for how bad things got between us and how I never wanted things to get so bad. She got furious and told me to **** off, she also said that I should stop bringing things up from the past and she had moved on centuries ago. I still love her for reasons I can't understand and I still want her back. She is still single.
All of my best friends are good friends with her. We hang in the same group at school. After this breakup everyone has been assuming things are so bad between us because of me. I am so depressed lately and I feel like none of my friends even care. I am starting to think they are making fun of me behind my back too. I feel terrible about myself.
What do I do about the girl and my friends?

boyhelp. · #2 (**permalink**) 05-19-2010, 02:30 PM

she has a dirty mouth if she uses the f word eweWNW

kitiyapron · #3 (**permalink**) 05-22-2010, 02:30 PM

I think you need to forget about the gal and just move it. There is no used crying over split water on the floor, you just take a mop and clean it up. About your friends you need to trust that they are your friends unless otherwise stated. If you got reason to believe they are siding more with your ex, then I would suggest you look for new friends to hang out with.

jsweit8573 · #4 (**permalink**) 05-26-2010, 02:30 PM

This girl is a huge hormonal psycho. Realistically apologizing and offering a start over is a good wound healer. I would say move on because she is nothing worth crying over. Your friends might be saying things. Realistically it going to happen and people won't remember anything. Don't avoid her but don't try and act like her friend.

Trust me there will be better people. And high school isn't the time to find a life partner

I have been through it. Just don't act like it totally changed your life

Get the word out! · #5 (**permalink**) 05-29-2010, 02:30 PM

If your friends are making fun of you behind your back, they aren't your friends. But do you have any proof of that?
You've tried to talk to this girl many times. She doesn't seem to be interested anymore. She's moved on, and you should too. The truth hurts, but you shouldn't waste time and effort on her if she isn't even really listening to you, or caring.
Keep your chin up, find a friend who understands what you're going through. If your friends now really are true friends, try to patch things up so you and this girl can at least be around each other without it being awkward. If she's friends with your friends, chances are you'll be seeing a lot of her.

I hope I helped. Good luck, and cheer up! Things will get better before you know it.