any advice for after a breakup?

pinknerdgirl · #1 (**permalink**) 07-22-2010, 03:20 PM

long story short..
I'm heartbroken
dated a guy for a year and a half and planned on getting married
now hes moving away and hes talking to other girls
i want him back but he doesn't want me

i dint want to know how to get him back.
i only want to know how to deal with the pain of a breakup.
your own experience or just advice. it doesn't matter

any help would be greatly appreciate. please

CarloDaHaitian · #2 (**permalink**) 07-26-2010, 03:20 PM

you just have to move on. i know it's hard but you'll get through it.

dark lord of the sith · #3 (**permalink**) 07-30-2010, 03:20 PM

Well
1) stop feeling sorry for yourself, that will only make the process harder
2) if you carry on wanting him back it will take longer, you need to come to terms with the fact he doesn't love you and is over you
3) you need to get your mind occupied, the more time you have to think about all this Cr*p the more it will set you back, get a hobby, spend more time with friends, join a club, go out more at night and meet new people.
4) have fun, just because your upset and heartbroken doesn't mean you can just mope around, get out there and have fun, pretending your happy for a while will help change your actual mood.

lookintomysoul · #4 (**permalink**) 08-04-2010, 03:20 PM

The most important word is Time.

Give yourself time to heal, to move on, to rebuild your life and confidence in being single, to find happiness within yourself, to find somebody new.

It'll come, just be patient and be excited for what the future will bring.

Chin up; it gets better.

Steven B · #5 (**permalink**) 08-08-2010, 03:20 PM

Well first, i really sorry to hear about this. I do know from my own experience its hard, but you just have to bare with it. My advice to you is to think about how much better you are. think about how its his loss to loose you. Go out with a few girlfriends and have a good time. Meet someone new that makes you smile as much as he did. No matter how upset you are, you will get through it.
Best of luck!

manders · #6 (**permalink**) 08-11-2010, 03:20 PM

Lost Relationships are the Death of someone close....Only time will make it easier to get through the day. So to answer your question..."One Day at a Time"

Sonya · #7 (**permalink**) 08-16-2010, 03:20 PM

Sorry!
Change your mind anyway you can.
Don't listen to sad romantic songs.
Don't stay in the house go with your friends etc.

Take Care.

Meena · #8 (**permalink**) 08-18-2010, 03:20 PM

The sooner you realize that the only person you can change is you.....your feelings, your behavior the sooner you will start to move on with your life and let him get on with his..........breaking up hurts and changes the life you are used to it is like grieving as you have lost someone who was important to you and grieving takes time and different times for different people.........time to look after you, think about you, plan your future, go out with friends and be strong

Kaos_Emo_Chick_4_life · #9 (**permalink**) 08-20-2010, 03:20 PM

Hi Amber
Love is a strange game
By the way when I was a young boy a girl name Amber was the first girl I ever loved!
I'm sorry you feel heartbroken. For relationships to happen, both people must be committed to relationship.
You should ask him why he moved away. If he says because he is done with you, it will suck.
The pain of a breakup is immense. You cared about another person and they broke your heart.
I just hope that if he is sure he doesn't want you back you'll be strong enough to love again.
You'll find love again. People are here to help and love one another. Just work thought the pain.
I'm sorry this happened. It's like when someone gets physically hurt. It's sad and you hope doesn't happen to anyone.
Good luck