Breakup Question :( Some advice?

Keith B · #1 (**permalink**) 02-25-2010, 07:34 AM

Ok, so my BF/EX of 2 and a half years recently broke up with me :'(
I have been coping better than I even thought I would, probably because he splits up with me a lot but I made sure this time was the last. I gave him 5 chances when I took him back each time and he basically f*ck ed me over again and again. But I ha vent cried much? .. It may be because he has hurt me SO many times that I don't feel like crying over the same thing over again.

But I'm wondering how long it takes until you are over someone enough to start dating?
& How long does it take for you to find someone else. (I know there is not a set time so your personal experiences would be nice.)

Thank you

Barbara H · #2 (**permalink**) 02-27-2010, 07:34 AM

If you guys broke up 5 times that should tell you all you need to know. If it isn't working the worst thing you can do is force it or lie to yourself thinking there is small chance or hope the person might change. As long as you have the feeling that there is a microscopic chance you 2 will work it is good enough for you then you will continue to get hurt. Let it go girl. Theres plenty of us good guys still out there. Just remember, it should work on its own. If you have to make it work then really, it doesn't work at all.

Ferret F · #3 (**permalink**) 03-02-2010, 07:34 AM

There is no time line when it comes to falling in love. It's all about when you meet the right guy. It could be tomorrow, it could be in a year. But the more you get out and put yourself out there, the faster it will probably be before you find someone new.

mattsbaby125 · #4 (**permalink**) 03-06-2010, 07:34 AM

As long as it takes. Don't rush through things, when u find someone that's will in to understand u and understand how u feel, that is when it is OK to date again.

goingg crazzy · #5 (**permalink**) 03-10-2010, 07:34 AM

i wait a Mont hoar so unless in your situation if you are over him you can freely go for anybody i hope i helped Lucy

Totem · #6 (**permalink**) 03-11-2010, 07:34 AM

I think you've done yourself well not getting completely down in the dumps over some guy... I think it really depends what the previous relationship was like. If you were head over heels in love with the person and you two broke up, of course you'd be distraught and miserable. As you said, he did mess you around, so you were basically preparing yourself for a break up. Basically, if you and you're guy were already going through rough patches, the split was inevitable

December · #7 (**permalink**) 03-12-2010, 07:34 AM

it is different for each person, it took me a little over a year to get over my ex of three years. our relationship was very rocky, broke up and on off again a lot, I finally said I was done and it was the hardest, yet best decision of my life. It is hard, but just surround yourself, with many things/people places things you love. get a hobby, whether it be working out a lot, sports, yoga, painting, wait at least 2 or 3 months before going out with someone else, then you know its not just rebound. and make sure you use caution, not a lot of good guys left anymore. they are out there but make good judgments.

picadilly · #8 (**permalink**) 03-14-2010, 08:34 AM

You have to date now. Go out and enjoy other people. You might be surprised. Good luck to you !!!!

million$? · #9 (**permalink**) 03-15-2010, 08:34 AM

better to have a long breath, thinking of the whole relationship , including your thoughts about three main things :
1- man.
2- woman.
3- love.
it won't take you a long time to find the right one for you.
good luck.

Smiley person · #10 (**permalink**) 03-16-2010, 08:34 AM

It depends
It could be tomorrow
......next week
......next month
or in a few moths

I hope you will find another person who will not hurt YOU and care about YOU when you have fully recovered from your previous relationship.