advice on a breakup or soon to be..?

bsunderlandm · #1 (**permalink**) 03-14-2009, 10:36 AM

i am trying to get rid of all the negative that surrounds me every day.. but the major one is my boyfriend. i support him, he doesn't help clean or with the dog...

i just started a new job and dint want to be distracted with a breakup right now.. i hate the pain of it, and what comes with that [living in the apartment we shared].

try to put yourself in my shoes and dint give me obvious answers.. try to comfort me too =(

the_only_solorose · #2 (**permalink**) 03-18-2009, 10:36 AM

Kelli, you already have a dog...if you have a bathtub, good book, and scented oils...you'll be fine without a guy in your life for a while. You have to be realistic with yourself, it's rare when life gives you the perfect circumstances to break up. Gather your emotional resources, friends and family, and get busy with the work of breaking up.

kokoqt74 · #3 (**permalink**) 03-19-2009, 10:36 AM

You shouldn't put this off. You are on the right track starting a new job, should get rid of the guy too. As for the apartment, rearrange the furniture or something to make it different once he goes. Change it and make it yours.
Good Luck.

▼Brian Likes Art▼ · #4 (**permalink**) 03-20-2009, 10:36 AM

It's not about comforting or being harsh it's about reality.Reality is some couples may or not be compatible much as one would like it to be.Would you rather endure the pain of staying in a relationship that says,there is no respect or communication(Optional). Or end it and deal with that pain that will heal in time.

marinatedpickles · #5 (**permalink**) 03-21-2009, 10:36 AM

Are you really sure breaking up is the answer?
Old dog wisdom says try to see if you can work through it. See if he's willing to change. Change is hard but if he really even tries and fails doesn't that give you hope.

Now if you're sure and that's that, I would first line up the new place (you don't want to stay in the old place, trust me) get everything ready. Then the day before you do it (and have some friends waiting to pick you up if need be) tell him that it just isn't working and you need to move on.

-B

cbrown3211 · #6 (**permalink**) 03-24-2009, 10:36 AM

I hope things work out, but if you really care for him then don't give up so easily. I can't really advise you further because I don't know how he's a negative in your life.

-Kari