Your best advice to dealing with a breakup with dignity?

jackie e · #1 (**permalink**) 04-26-2008, 10:51 AM

He ended it and has moved onto other women. He still wants me as a friend and play partner. Part of me would like that too; however, I feel if he ended it I should just drop him altogether so he doesn't have the best of both worlds. What's worked for you?

BlueCollarMan · #2 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 10:51 AM

If he has moved onto someone else forget about him. He will only be using you and like you said having the best of both worlds.

finger sniffin'good · #3 (**permalink**) 05-04-2008, 10:51 AM

Friend yes, play partner (meaning in the bedroom) NO Way.........

Why shouldn't you be able to move on and forward too,

best wishes

OhShitShakeThatt · #4 (**permalink**) 05-05-2008, 10:51 AM

Probably a good idea to let it all end. But whats the harm in having a little fun. You know each other well enough and obviously trust one another. I changed my mind. Probably a good idea to continue in both worlds. Remember... Practice makes perfect.

Matthew Weaver Cayenne · #5 (**permalink**) 05-10-2008, 10:51 AM

I would just let him be, and live my own life. I mean if I wasn't good enough for that person than what makes you think your good enough for me.

Jim G · #6 (**permalink**) 05-12-2008, 10:51 AM

2 keep Ur dignity thought him and talk 2 him calmly as if he breaking up with u doe snot mean anything.

kiki91761 · #7 (**permalink**) 05-17-2008, 10:51 AM

DROP HIM!

As in, he still wants to have all the sexual benefits without any of the responsibilities? If you want a "friend with benefits" thing, I'd say go for someone that doesn't affect you emotionally.

Otherwise there will probably be feelings of guilt and inadequacy as he sleeps with you, and Woman A. And Woman B... and.... see what i mean?

Jennie · #8 (**permalink**) 05-21-2008, 10:51 AM

Listen darling you are worth much more than a part timer. It quite obvious that this man just wants a good time, why do you want to put yourself through that and continue hurting yourself. Time heals all wounds eventually you would see what he is worth and be able to move on. Right now gal, Mr Rite is out there searching to treat you with respect, and an abundance of love. Kick that fool to the curb and move on...time waits for nobody and your time starts now!!!!!!!! I know it ain't easy especially when you love him dearly but see beyond that and is he really worthy of your love.....
Hope this helps

Rob T · #9 (**permalink**) 05-25-2008, 10:51 AM

For starters don't be his "play partner". It only ends up hurting more. Especially when he takes off in the morning and doesn't call later. God knows I've cried my eyes out over that scenario before. Take care of YOU. Get to know yourself and take the lessons that you've learned in the relationship with you. They'll help you in the future. There is a reason that he came into your life to begin with. All relationships are a blessing, regardless of how long they last. The more it hurts the bigger the lesson. You're gonna be OK!!