Looking for advice after a breakup !?

Jewells · #1 (**permalink**) 02-01-2009, 12:29 PM

i split up with my partner of 14maths cause we didn't seem to be going anywhere - that was about 6 weeks ago. we;vie been in touch and last week my ex went mental after hearing a rum our that my friends where setting me up - i was apologetic and listened as my ex cried and ranted etc ... she called me Saturday (two days after her above call) to say she met someone else who we work with the night before and wanted me to know - am not sure what to do or think - i still love my ex but this has really knocked me - she says I'm still hers etc and yet shes already playing the field - am i just being manipulated ? or is it really over and i just have to deal with it ?

mistydeepblue22 · #2 (**permalink**) 02-04-2009, 12:29 PM

it's over. unless you want to be with somebody that manipulates you

(POP)Ular SciencE · #3 (**permalink**) 02-09-2009, 12:29 PM

She's doing what many women feel they must do after they've been hurt: SHE'S FUCKING WITH YOUR HEAD, MAN. You need to cut off all contact with her. Block all her phone numbers, her e-mail, delete her off your MySpace friends. Just cut your losses and move on with your life. And while you're at it, try to get your friends to make that rumor true and have them hook you up with someone.

Ovee : ) · #4 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 12:29 PM

You are a silly stupid fool. Just go and look into her eyes. They will definitely tell you that she still loves u n only u.
All that she told u, is off course, to make your heart feel that you love her too.
Go you idiot and tell her that u are always there, before it's too late.

shoppingcart16 · #5 (**permalink**) 02-16-2009, 12:29 PM

Handle it and find someone else on the shift

Ylang-Ylang · #6 (**permalink**) 02-19-2009, 12:29 PM

I don't think either of you know what you want! You say that YOU split with her but you say that you still love her. Do you love her but know that it won't work between you, or were you not sure of your feelings with her when you broke up? If it's the former, it's hard, but you have to try and make a clean break. If it's the latter, but now you realize that you DO love her, then you should tell her and see if there's any chance of trying things again.

I think it's POSSIBLE that she's manipulating you and trying to make you jealous... do you know if this person at work thinks that they're in a relationship? If so, then it would appear she's telling the truth. If it's possibly not true, then you need to be open about your feelings. IE "I feel jealous to see you moving on but we shouldn't get back together because the same problems are still there", or "I realize now that I really do love you and want to try again", or even "I really don't know what I want". That's OK - but be HONEST about it!

Good luck!

Marley'smommy · #7 (**permalink**) 02-24-2009, 12:29 PM

Hey it all depends on how you feel. If you have feelings for her and she has them for you then it's not worth messing up. But maybe she's not playing the field like you think. Maybe she's either tr yin to get her mind off of you, or see if you're going to do anything to stop her, or maybe she really is tr yin to move on. But girls now a days are really sensitive and try to forget things by put tin other things in front of them to concentrate in.

Dufour · #8 (**permalink**) 02-27-2009, 12:29 PM

She just wanted to see if she still had you because she was about to go after that guy at work and if that didn't work out she had a fall back position (you). It's over dude, move on!