Need your help on breakup !! Advice please?

Green eyes · #1 (**permalink**) 03-17-2010, 04:38 PM

I was going around with a girl for around 1 year. Lately since our relationship wasn't going anywhere so I asked the girl to talk to her parents about us and her parents said NO. After this the girl started avoiding me even more , I gave her options if she want me to convince her parents, or if she wants time to convince them or if she wants me to be out of her life I can do that. May be she is seeing someone else..but i am not sure. 2 weeks back, she told me that she will think over about this relation and from now until then none of us communicated. Today i got her email that she did not had guts to call me so she decided to email me and wrote whatever we have/had between us its over , she loved me, she still loves me and she will love me with all her heart and she tried to convince her parents but they said no.

Guys what do you suggest , should I reply her or not ?

Call .357 · #2 (**permalink**) 03-18-2010, 04:38 PM

Just leave it at that. Technically, parents shouldn't always have the say, but if she says it's over, whether because of her parents or not, it's over. I would suggest you listen, it sounds like you'll both be happier in the end. Good luck.

vsatsanga · #3 (**permalink**) 03-22-2010, 04:38 PM

C'est amusing'.
Anyway, I think you should. If she really still likes you it would hurt her if you ignore her. There probably won't be anything in it for you, but be a nice guy and comfort her.

Ilovebeaches · #4 (**permalink**) 03-26-2010, 04:38 PM

Dont reply. Its her loss. If she is the type of girl who listens to her parents, not her heart, then let her go.

kitkat_55 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-30-2010, 04:38 PM

ya man if u luv her u should but if u dint then just forget about it.

ladylikestoplaygames · #6 (**permalink**) 04-01-2010, 04:38 PM

It is not so clear what is the real problem why her parents don't approve of you. Are you married to someone else? If so, better file for a divorce first before getting into another relationship - that is to be fair to the girl. If not, yet the girl chooses her parents than you, then move on.

contactkanchan79 · #7 (**permalink**) 04-02-2010, 04:38 PM

If she says its over, then its over. What she said makes it very final. You can't change her mind, and you don't want to be with somebody who needs to be convinced to be with you, or that lets her parents make all her personal decisions. Your time is too precious. Just leave it alone.

..,kAthxz,.. · #8 (**permalink**) 04-05-2010, 04:38 PM

Give her time. if she really likes you she will talk to her parents. Do not let her just tell you she loves you, tell her to show you she loves you. Remember actions speak louder than words. After 2 weeks if there is no change go to her and tell her that she has showed you what she wants and obviously it is not you so move on.

emeraldlatios · #9 (**permalink**) 04-07-2010, 04:38 PM

I hate to break it to you, but she has moved on. I believe she used her parents as an excuse. If she wanted to be with you she would have let you talked to them. It wouldn't surprise me if she has another boyfriend. Sorry for the truth. You have to go though the bad ones to find the good ones OK. Good luck.

Kipper to the CUP! · #10 (**permalink**) 04-08-2010, 04:38 PM

Her parents disapproved of you..She wants to keep her parents happy , so she told you it was over. Bow out gracefully, Tell her you will respect her wishes and that you love her and wish her well and leave it at that .

Dale D · #11 (**permalink**) 04-13-2010, 04:38 PM

Hi Seemasac, I dint think she's seeing anyone else...Cox he would have also have to pass the parents test...ND he would be impossible to hide. I think she just loves her parents so much that she cant bring herself to to be with you without their consent. Its common for Pol to hide and not reply like she did Cox she couldn't face you so dint read anything into that. I think you could try convincing her parents again.

Since you have already met them once, try figuring out what they missed in you. Plz try to cover that up. No parent would give their daughter to anyone they dint feel would be financially or mentally capable of taking care of their daughter. Just try to grow your relationship with her parents. I think thats the best way to go about it.