Breakup advice! Need some adive on moving on or trying to work it out. Thanks?

Needingloveback · #1 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 12:28 PM

Me and this girl broke up after 3 1/2 months. (I 29 she 25) Initially she told me that she lost the spark. She wanted to remain friends. I kept asking her i wanted her back because my heart said dont let her go. We fought over the next 3 weeks about getting back. She said things like you cant force it, give it time, etc.. Then she started to call me a crazy person cause i persisted and i know i did. Last night i get a text from her telling me the reasons for a break up. My charm got old. She was no longer attracted to me cause she is way outta my league, she felt i was buying her love and my asskising got sicking and now she says she will never be friends now and wants nothing to do with me.She was the one that wanted to stay friends badly. I think i pushed her to far then. Will she ever talk to me again. Has anyone ever had someone talk to them again after something like this. I really just want to be friends. Any advice thanksI saw her this past weekend and we tried to talk, but she said she had nothing to say to me. We hang out at similar places and she talks to my friends. I treated her so well. She always told me how lucky she was to be"stuck"with me and i am the best. Told me she wanted to marry me etc.. have kids and all. All of a sudden you lose feelings. Makes no sense. She did just get out of a 2 1/2 yr verbally abusive relationship which ended in a restraining order, which I come to find out she has started to text him again, nothing more and the texting started while we were together, of course she denied, but I have proof. I guess i was a rebound or what. Do you guys think she just realized she didnt want to be in a relationship cause she was not ready?? Or was she just confused, she is a Gemini and I am a Pisces? Any advice on how I should deal with this?

Racer D · #2 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 05:36 PM

Move on and find a girl that will make you happy. There are plenty of girls out there. Life is far too short to be worrying over something like this. Be happy! :-)Besides... from what you said... you deserve better than her anyway.

adamlee_123 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 08:04 PM

I have been in an EXTREMELY similar relationship, and man the best thing for you, is to just forget about her and move on, get someone who WANTS YOU and you WANT them, it seems like it will never come but it will. I just got out of a 6 and a half year relationship, and it ended over speculation (keep in mind I'm young, either way six years is a long time and a lot is learned)...Just let it go and don't try to be involved with it. and about your age, don't hold onto things because you may think you're"getting old", because your NOT, you're in your prime! plenty of women will come your way dude.you just gotta keep your head up.

hotpink35 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 01:28 AM

In all honesty she sounds like a real snob. From the way you are sayiing you were to her maybe you can do much better any way. Tell her you only want to be friends no more and make her understand and believe it. you can be friends with an ex. I have remaind friends with several of mine.