realtionship/breakup advice?

jija · #1 (**permalink**) 02-12-2009, 06:37 PM

My boyfriend and i just recently broke up, he keeps telling me that he wants to be friends and can see us getting back together in the future, he jugs needs some time to make good relationships with friends and family right now. what does that mean? does he really see us getting back together? and how do you be friends with someone you intimate with and dated for over a year?? please help.

Doeffy · #2 (**permalink**) 02-17-2009, 06:37 PM

whew... I understand. That's really hard. Well if that's the case, don't try too hard to be friends with him, because if he really loves you, he will come back.

Mysteryview · #3 (**permalink**) 02-18-2009, 06:37 PM

Possible, but it's just an easy way of him to break up with you. To stay friends just talk when u see him and talk about what is going on with your life and what he is up to.

A Wii bit fit... · #4 (**permalink**) 02-20-2009, 06:37 PM

I am afraid that you are in the same situation that i am in-this is their way of getting what they want-to be intimate-without a real relationship.

kara k · #5 (**permalink**) 02-24-2009, 06:37 PM

When he says he just wants to be friends but sees something in the future he is probably being honest. Right now he probably cant be focusing on a relationship but when the time is right he wants to start things up again. Just act like buds like you used to. Call him up to hang or just to talk and be casual about it like your other friends. Things will get back to normal, it's all in a matter of time. But I wouldn't worry about it.

To Serve · #6 (**permalink**) 03-01-2009, 06:37 PM

Well..I had a friend that was in your position..and the guy told her that maybe they could get back together later in the future..and well it turns out that he lied. =/ He continued to see her once in a while, but never had the intention of getting back with her. Your guy might be different. Everyone thinks differently..so maybe you should just wait and see. Good luck to you!

KarateKaty · #7 (**permalink**) 03-02-2009, 06:37 PM

Pl girl he have someone taking care of his need ,,that in the future think about getting back together Pl i would not have left over ..find someone who really appreciate you

*the dancing machine* · #8 (**permalink**) 03-05-2009, 06:37 PM

sounds to me like he's just making excuses. don't wait for him, just move on.

sherri r · #9 (**permalink**) 03-07-2009, 06:37 PM

In my personal experience if he wants to be friends you should at least give it a try, my ex and I decided something like this before and we are the greatest friends, I know it's hard but if you open up it may be the best the thing you did.

Momma Beth · #10 (**permalink**) 03-11-2009, 07:37 PM

Basically, relationships problem could be vary. As for your case maybe he is not prepare or commit to have a relationship, i mean i got to know the entire picture of your story as your verdict are limited as I'm a counselor it is rather difficult to advise you. Firstly you must understand that both of you are from different culture and different upbringing. So, not much of an expectation i don't find there's a reason to break up. Talk to him and find out the reasoning for breaking up.