Girlfriend Breakup need advice?

brownin42 · #1 (**permalink**) 04-27-2008, 08:05 PM

Well guys I've been dating this girl for 4-5 months now and she's just now started being herself and to be quite frank she is a very annoying person and not considerate towards anyone but herself and comes off being some what selfish and to be honest shes just not making me happy so i thought the obvious thing to do was to break up with her but i don't know what to do.. is it wrong to break up with someone who annoys you? I'm just very confused because no matter what ill come off looking like the "asshole boyfriend" but the longer i wait to break our relationship the more hurt she will get so i just need some advice thanks guys ultimately ill make my own decision but i just want to make sure I'm not crazy or being a prick.
I've try ed to talk to her about how i feel and she tells me that its me and she does int have any fault in our relationship.. so I'm clueless

Pa J · #2 (**permalink**) 04-29-2008, 08:05 PM

Well you wouldn't be breaking up with her just because she's annoying, but also because she's selfish. It seems like you obviously don't want to be with her anymore because you're not happy. That's enough reason to leave. And yes, the sooner the better I'd say.

jpn540 · #3 (**permalink**) 04-30-2008, 08:05 PM

well if she isn't making you happy then i think you should break up with her and the sooner the better but remember do what you what to do and do what makes you happy listen to your heart it knows best of what you want and what makes you happy and if you do that then i wouldn't think your an asshole boyfriend you would just be a guy that knows what he wants

supersaiyanamy · #4 (**permalink**) 05-04-2008, 08:05 PM

My boyfriend thinks and I agree to be honest, if you have talked to her about it and nothing changing and it's always that way and she never makes you happy then break it off.

If you are thinking about not breaking it off. perhaps trying to talk to her again but not accusing her of being at fault. just be like

SOmetimes when you do this it makes me feel this way because of this.

Example;

When you don't think ask me sometimes if i want to do something and just go ahead and assume i do it makes me feel like you don't value my opinion or what i want to do and i think we can come up with a fair alternatives next time that we both want to do by sharing our ideas before hand. and then deciding.

or to use it for future reference..

Hannah J · #5 (**permalink**) 05-08-2008, 08:05 PM

i don't think I'll be a "asshole bf" if u break up with her because i mean, it's your feelings and the main point of a relationship is being happy with the person that you like. if you're simply not happy and even now getting frustrated, it's a good idea to end it with her. in every break up, there will always be an innocent one and bad one... if she really doesn't find herself anything wrong because she doesn't find her personality wrong, then i guess you have to take the bad role and make the decision. the longer you wait, she make think she still has hopes in you while you're just as frustrated as ever. so i guess, as a guy, step it up and make the move to break it with her.
good luck!