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I'm gonna keep this short.
This guy and I have been talking non-stop for 3 months after he met me once, and he has always been on line until late for me, ALWAYS spoke to me first, wanted to know what i was doing, and just respected me so much. We eventually started dating, I told him he is always on my mind, and he loved it, and even said the same thing and even things like 'Your the one". I went away for a week to holiday and he waited for me, deactivated his face book so nobody spoke to him until i got back. He messaged me times in an hour, i THINK he really liked me. I got back, and realized I liked the guy I knew a year ago, and I told him that. He didn't take it well, I broke up with him, and he sent me messages like "has anyone ever said they hate you? cos i do" and "look who's hurting who, from now on if any of my friends get to know you I'm just gonna talk shit behind your back to hurt you the way you hurt me" and "friends told me not to be with you and i didn't believe them but now i do" .. it's been a month. i feel bad, and now all his friends are so distant from me. He even got a new girlfriend a week later...! and when we got into an argument that week he said "I'm glad it didn't go any further cos she is so sweet and fun unlike you" .. was he even worth it in the first place? he hasn't even blocked me yet, just deleted me off face book. And the same week we broke up, he was friends with that girl on face book so it's not like they go way back.. but seriously..who is in the right?
Did you end up actually going out with the ex you said you preferred?
It would have helped if you had said to the current Bf that you just wanted to cool things down a while , especially if they are a jealous type or you don't know them that well.
You mentioned another guy you said you preferred~ that is like a red rag to the bull !! , it can be seen as a very a mean (albeit too honest) way of splitting up.
Be more subtle next time , but in saying that you weren't in the wrong exactly but a bit too harsh.
He was wrong to text nasty texts and threaten you , its just a bad clumsy break up causing a lot of pain to both of you.
His friends will obviously be on his side , they're HIS friends ! Easy does it when you break up then you don't get so much crap coming back.
Let's say he didn't say all those things to you.. you would have still felt as you did. He is angry, and you need to understand that his reaction is in response to you rejecting him. The things he said to you, although not acceptable, are understandable. He feels hurt, and he wants it to go away, and wants to get you back.
How he is handling it is to distract himself from you, and to emotionally try to feel better. People do this all the time. Focus on yourself, on positive people, and on whomever you want to date. Don't focus on him and the crap he is saying to others. People will know the truth. He can't piss you off, unless you allow him to
Ex and breakup advice...please?
