Advice on Breakup.?

Divagurl · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 03:51 AM

My boyfriend and I were dating for 5 years, he proposed to me 2 years ago, I accepted. We planned our wedding date, and he canceled it. We broke up about a month ago. I feel like this is the big break up! Normally we would break up and just need sometime apart, then he will call me apologizing and vice versa. I am so tired of the same old thing.

I need some advice on how to make it an official breakup. I feel like he is just stringing me along. Setting me up for failure, year after year. Question is... Is it finally over? We had an argument over the phone, I hung up and have not spoken to him since. It's been about a month since I last spoke with him.

Ruby · #2 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 10:48 AM

It sounds over to me. If you really want it to be permanent, don't take any calls if he contacts you again and don't call him either.

x_kenna · #3 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 11:51 PM

If you want it to be over just completely ignore him as it seems you already have begun. i.e. dont answer any of his calls or anything and he'll get the picture.

*So-iN-LoVe* · #4 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 08:35 PM

you are the only one who knows.. but a month is a really long time not to speak to somone you dated for 5 years... i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years.. and we argue at times.. but within like 20 minutes we say sorry and make up..

nichola e · #5 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 11:06 AM

If you want ti to be over then let it be over. Stop worring yourself about it. If you think that you both still have a chance then go for it

Sirrenthia J · #6 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 12:36 AM

if you haven't spoken a month, i would definitely say it was over unless your arguments usually last that long

thomas54521 · #7 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 08:32 PM

wooow, well it think it could be delete his number block him just don't think of him at all move on if he took 5 years proposed then dropped it not worth it.

roya67 · #8 (**permalink**) 02-01-2009, 11:40 AM

If any man makes a plan to marry a woman and then cancels it, that woman should move on with her life. He is just not worth the time and effort. There are other men out there...take your time to nurse your heartache and open your heart to pursue other men. I was in love with one woman for years. we broke up and I met so many other smart and beautiful women out there. There is always hope.

G M · #9 (**permalink**) 02-06-2009, 06:16 PM

Spend time with friends... keep yourself busy. Come up with a 1-year plan... what do YOU want to do...as a person... for yourself. I would say go on vacation, but that may make you feel sad that u don't have someone with you. Pick up a book on unhealthy relationships... realize where things went wrong so u won't make the same mistakes again. Good luck to u- B strong!