tips for getting over a breakup ? and advice on why this guy did this ?

Ollie · #1 (**permalink**) 03-25-2010, 03:54 PM

threes this guy , lets call him " the dish bag" . he told me he liked me , and i told him .hes reel sweet and cute , and a week later he asked me out . we went out for 2 days , while i was hoping this would last a while . then he broke up with me

he said he apparently wanted to stay single . when he said this i said OK . but i was kind of confused . he goes out with lots of girls for more than two days , so i was beginning to think it was because he didn't like me . but then the next day i found out he still like ed me and thought i was pretty . there was a dance last nighest we both were at . he was there , and every once in a while i would catch him looking at me . i also checked my "top male fans " on facebook and he was number 2 . this guy is confusing me and what should i do ? help

pancakesinbruges · #2 (**permalink**) 03-27-2010, 03:54 PM

when I did that to my people I told them the truth "I was nervous about being with them and they made me scared when they hugged me" I think he really liked you but he could have been like me nervous around you and thought he was not good enough

misterpeasea · #3 (**permalink**) 03-30-2010, 03:54 PM

This guy is just being a BIG JERK he just wants to be one of those player types you should just forget about him cause if he broke up with you after 2 days but still likes u after that then he probably has a reputation to follow or something like that

lynswil27 · #4 (**permalink**) 04-02-2010, 03:54 PM

Go out, party, hang out with friends! ;D Get things off your mind/occupy yourself.
He has mixed feelings for you, but I would find someone better than him for you. He doesn't sound like a serious kind of guy.

Lenora J · #5 (**permalink**) 04-03-2010, 03:54 PM

Hi,

If he broke up with you within to days then there was clearly something up. I would be very cautious when dealing with this fellow. It sounds like...

A. He is a player

B. He does not know who or what he wants

C. He was showing someone that he can get any girl that he wants ( a player also in this case )

He is giving you mixed signals, and guys will do that from time to time. I think that you should let him go, at least for now, and keep your eyes open. If he wants to be with you then he will do so before you date someone else. but keep in mind that he did leave you after 2 days for no reason, and keep in mind that there is a chance of that happening again.

Don't every worry about one lousy guy. As long as he did not sleep with you, then throw you away then you should just blow him off. This is another thing that you need to be careful not to have happen in your future.

Good luck with future relationships and in the decisions that you make.

-Vallence

Lucy R · #6 (**permalink**) 04-04-2010, 03:54 PM

Here's [WHAT TO DO]:>> Block him PHYSICALLY from every goddamn book there is about the face to the leg! Cut his phone. DO NEVER EVER respond to his emails, SMS. NO MATTER WHAT!

SHOUT "NEXXXT!"; "NEXT", "NEXT!".."NEXT!", many times, till someone pleases you & is here to STAY! YOU CALL the SHOTS here! Duh!

GET SOME SELF-RESPECT DUDETTE! I'LL GIVE YOU SOME RIGHT AWAY- You're the WOMAN! You're the coolest thing that Jacka.SS has seen & his BLINDNESS, DUMB-HEAD or EVOLUTION AIN'T your concern/problem! KICK HIM (not physically). KICK HIM WHERE HE CAN'T EVEN SHOW. LOAD it with {{STYLE}} dude. LAUGH at HIM!

[GETTIN a GRIP on the "MISMATCH"]:>> "WHAT breakup?!"
<The T-SHIRT ANALOGY>: At a mall you see a REALLY artistic, exotic, umber-cool T-Shirt(guy). You think THIS IS 'THE ONE'! You almost buy (marry) it to live happily Eva after, but Oops! turns out it's 3(THREE) whole sizes smaller than yours. WHADYA DO?! Put it back to where you picked it from & shout "NEXT!". That's what!

<The KEYS ANALOGY>: So You're tr yin keys(guys) from a bunch to open this door. You pick a key, HOPE it'll "work", but it DOESN'T! OMG! WHADYADO NOW?! Drop It And Pick The NEXT! That's what! You waste NO time to sit & brood over "Why didn't the key OPEN it for me?" YOU'RE the DOOR! not some KEY! You hold back NUMEROUS GIFTS inside you. This person is ONE of the keys. If this key can't open it, 2BAD, it'll NEVER see your GIFTS! LAUGH NOW! The KEY "MOVES ON"! The door STAYS PUT! YOU CALL THE SHOTS!
Ts! Keys! MOVE ON! Somebody shout "NEXT!"

[CONSIDER THESE QUESTIONS]:>> Why would you treat someone on priority when you're NOT their priority?
Why would you live with someone who DOESN'T like your company? Why in the HE.CK would you enjoy theirs?
If he doesn't enjoy you, WHY WOULD YOU enjoy him NOT enjoying you, or ENJOY HIM AT ALL?!
If he's OK with it, why EVER would you NOT be OK?! If he DOESN?T want it, why EVER would YOU?
If HE DOESN'T mind, WHY WOULD YOU?! Why would you need someone that DOESN'T need you? WHA:O? whY.EVER?!
If HE DOESN'T NEED you & WANT you as much, why EVER would you? Why would you care if HE CAN'T/WON'T care?
Why would you be with someone who's willing to LET YOU DOWN, LET YOU FAIL?! :O WHY IN THE ACTUAL HE.CK WOULD YOU DO THAT?!
It's like wanting to live desperately with someone who you know will murder you! WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT? KICK HIM! He more than deserves it.
BASICALLY, why would you be with someone that FAILS YOU & is WILLING to LET YOU DOWN?

Your house(relationship) is broken so that it can be built anew with newer better things(new guy perhaps). So that it can be made stronger, better than ever before! That's how "renovation" works!

[BEATING 'HER+HIM']:>> Be a LIONESS. Who the hell needs him?! Seeing him with 'her'?(on fb?) KNOW that IT'S NOT YOU! How could he EVER have YOUR(you+him) kinda fun with some SUBSTITUTE of YOURS? YOU+HIM is what you relate to and think is rosy, NOT HER+HIM!

HER is a REPLACEMENT. And JUST WHO IN THE ACTUAL HE.CK COULD REPLACE YOU?! LOL! HER+HIM is a GIMMICK, a CATCH, an IMITATION! It looks happier, brighter? It's FAKE! IT'S NOT EVER THE SAME AS YOU+HIM!

HOW COULD HE EVER HAVE YOUR KINDA FUN WITHOUT YOU?! LOL! A.JOLIE'S with him? So what?! It's still NOT YOU! It can NEVER be YOU!
SNAP outa it! NOW! People who care, NEVER give up on you! STAY PUT. KICK HIM MORE!

[GETTIN A GRIP OVER HIS THOUGHTS]:>> His thoughts are ECHOES. You hear(think) them even after the SPEAKER'S gone. They HAPPEN to you - UNLIKE RADIO CHANNELS! They're like garbage stink, unpleasant & pungent, staying even after the garbage truck's gone. But that's just the quality of garbage! IT'S NOT YOU! You walk past a street with garbage & smell stink! You didn't plan on it! So too, you didn't plan to have his thoughts! It's not your fault if you smell garbage

Keep walking, toward fragrance. [SING] MUCH, Get BUSY with things. His thoughts've GOTTA FADE.

You're JUST fine without him. You still have skin and are breathing. The "breakup" didn't even touch you! You din't/don't EVER need him at all! Trust me. Your self confidence, courage to live fully without him, to show him this, & that you don't care a damn about him, IS success in this dirty mind game!

It was a long relationship? So what?! It's the old houses that're broken to bits to create newer mansions of light, laughter & clarity.

Breathe deep. DUMP HIM, at every level. Let him down. Show him, his place. You can do this. After kicking him royally, you have to help MANY who are in the same state(or worse) as you now, & need help. It's ALL FOR THEM. This whole event is JUST so that you come out of it 100% SUCCESSFUL, tell & share your learnings, experiences & help these people. This is (your secret mission), the final PURPOSE behind the whole situation that's in front of you now.

"Some blessings shatter all glasses and windows when they arrive"
Power to you! | God be wih you!