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I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 months.
Around a year ago her biological mother died to breast cancer and recently her step-mother found out she has the same thing, her granddad has also recently become very sick. She was abused as a young child be her great grandfather as well and has never fully dealt with that, nor the death of her mother which is made worse by the fact she has bipolar disorder and regularly get in very low moods and it's not uncommon for her to start crying.
She also has very little in her life as a whole, few good friends and none she talks to about real personal stuff as well as a poor relationship with her parents and on the whole the only thing she looks forward to is me going to visit her and I'm worried that if I do break up with her she will go to a very dark place and with no one to talk to it will be lead to a happy ending. Her birthday is also coming up soon and all she can talk about at the moment is how much she wants me there on her birthday and I don't want to ruin that for her.
I want to break up with her because to be honest I'm starting to resent her since I can't do anything I want for fear of sending her into a depressed mood, I can't talk to my mates because that'll make her think I don't want to talk to her and that's she's done something wrong. She constantly needs to be talking to me and I need space every now and then but if I tell her that she'll again go into a deep depression. I can't be tired or in a bad mood because that makes her think I don't want to talk to her and that'll send her into a depression. I've honestly done my best to sit and listen and to start with I was fine with it, it's not her fault that these things have happened and I was as understanding as I could be but, to put it bluntly, I'm too young to be dealing with these issues (I'm 19, she's 18) when I've only known her for about 4 months.
I suppose what I really want to know is am I being selfish for wanting to break up with some1 who depends on me so much and is going through all this and for the reasons I've stated?
I've been in a long distance relationship for 3 months.
Around a year ago her biological mother died to breast cancer and recently her step-mother found out she has the same thing, her granddad has also recently become very sick. She was abused as a young child be her great grandfather as well and has never fully dealt with that, nor the death of her mother which is made worse by the fact she has bipolar disorder and regularly get in very low moods and it's not uncommon for her to start crying.
She also has very little in her life as a whole, few good friends and none she talks to about real personal stuff as well as a poor relationship with her parents and on the whole the only thing she looks forward to is me going to visit her and I'm worried that if I do break up with her she will go to a very dark place and with no one to talk to it will be lead to a happy ending. Her birthday is also coming up soon and all she can talk about at the moment is how much she wants me there on her birthday and I don't want to ruin that for her.
I want to break up with her because to be honest I'm starting to resent her since I can't do anything I want for fear of sending her into a depressed mood, I can't talk to my mates because that'll make her think I don't want to talk to her and that's she's done something wrong. She constantly needs to be talking to me and I need space every now and then but if I tell her that she'll again go into a deep depression. I can't be tired or in a bad mood because that makes her think I don't want to talk to her and that'll send her into a depression. I've honestly done my best to sit and listen and to start with I was fine with it, it's not her fault that these things have happened and I was as understanding as I could be but, to put it bluntly, I'm too young to be dealing with these issues (I'm 19, she's 18) when I've only known her for about 4 months.
I suppose what I really want to know is am I being selfish for wanting to break up with some1 who depends on me so much and is going through all this and for the reasons I've stated?
Long distance relationship with fragile girl
