relationship advice..breakup..?

Christina J · #1 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 09:57 AM

me (19) and my boyfriend (24) have been together since may, and this past weekend we broke up. we always managed to get over our fights and move on. im really hurt by our breakup because we went through alot and i just dont want to lose him... i havent talked to him since sunday night, i tried texting him on monday but he didnt answer. usually when we fight hell give me the silent treatment for a few days to i guess"prove a point"but im really scared that this is really it...what should i do? i miss him so much.. should i text him? what should i say?we werent even fighting when we broke up, it was so random and out of nowhere..thanks...we also went through a pregnancy together a few months ago...but it didnt go very well and i lost our child..if that makes you understand a little more why im so attatched..and as for zodiac, im scorpio and hes pisces.. which are supposed to be made for eachother..

Just Me Being Me · #2 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 06:15 PM

Maybe the fact that it's"out of nowhere"means it's for real. I mean, you argue, break-up, and get back together but this time there was no argument, just a break-up.And there's no such thing as"out of nowhere". You're missing the signs.

xMurderousMayhemx · #3 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 05:17 AM

I know you miss him.. but being clingy by constantly texting him is not going to help things. If he wants to talk to you, he will get a hold of you. Just relax, and give things a few days to cool down - give him the chance to miss you. Keep yourself busy with things. Most importantly, let him get a hold of you! ! ! !

Mrs. S · #4 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 10:40 AM

This is really it. The fact you weren't fighting when you broke up proves it. It wasn't out of nowhere. He's thought about it. It just seemed that way to you. He hasn't answered because to him, he's done the breaking up, he has nothing more to talk about right now with you and knows you are just trying to get the talk going again. He doesn't want to talk, you broke up. You should deal with the loss and move on. Don't text him or call him anymore.

pussers880 · #5 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 01:42 AM

Well, breakups require approximately half the length of the relationship to get over.So, since you were together since May, you need three months.End of January, you will be good to go. Nothing but time helps you get over a breakup.And trust me, don't go and make out with the first loser that comes along. You will regret it.

marisa · #6 (**permalink**) 01-14-2009, 04:54 AM

I wouldn't text him again, since he didn't answer when you texted him before. I'd go up to his house and talk to him. Ask him what you did wrong and if there is anything you can do to get back together with him. If you really care that much about him, you should try your best to get back with him. Tell him how you feel, and that if you hurt him in anyway that you are sorry. Suggest that you both work to work things out. Love hurts, but I think that you can get through this one, if you both work together.

hctrmoron · #7 (**permalink**) 02-03-2009, 12:40 AM

maybe the guy isn't the right one for you. let him run back to you. don't run back to him. or maybe he Just need time to think. just wait and see whats the next step in the relationship or just move on cause you are really young. even if you guys make break up its not the end of the world just move on

rubycheez · #8 (**permalink**) 02-10-2009, 06:40 AM

Give him his space. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want you, right? He probably just needs time to figure out what he wants and where you fall into that.In the meantime, figure out what it is about him and your relationship that makes you want him so badly. It doesn't seem to be going well, especially if you think he's doing manipulative things to"teach you a lesson."