Need advice for dealing with tough breakup?

LRae20 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 11:19 PM

What do you do to help you through a tough breakup? My boyfriend and I recently broke up, it was somewhat mutual, he definately wanted it more then I but I'm having a really hard time with it. Any advice?? (I've been in long term relationships before, we have only been dating about 4.5 months)

andrea lynn · #2 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 06:15 PM

Break ups are definitly rough. One thing for sure not to do is to try and rush into a new relationshp. Give yourself time to heal. Keep yourself occupied with friends and family. Eventually you'll think of him less and less. Someday you'll meet someone amazing and you'll realize that this ex was just another stepping stone to the one your truly meant to be with.

yums · #3 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 01:17 AM

you can never give a length of time for the healing process from breakups. its an individual thing. read more on relationships that might help on this site

No M · #4 (**permalink**) 01-21-2009, 04:28 PM

Try to keep yourself ocuppied over the next few weeks. Try not to be alone for too long, cause when your alone or when your bored you'll start thinking about them. Eventually, as time passes you'll soon forget. PS: Hide any photo's or things that remind you of them!

Mrs. Ma'am · #5 (**permalink**) 01-26-2009, 07:00 PM

To help get through any break up...hang out with friends. Venting helps. Try to stay busy.

Kari · #6 (**permalink**) 02-12-2009, 06:40 PM

My old response would have been to keep busy, and to surround yourself with friends. I have a new response now, though.Take some time alone and deal with your feelings. Find a creative way to work through them...if you're into art, use your emotion to create something. If you're a writer, indulge yourself in some sad, sappy poetry. You can sing, dance, exercise....whatever it is that you like. Do whatever it is as a means of catharsis...and dont be afraid of being sad. its normal, and you need to let yourself grieve for what is gone.There are lots of people around you who care, talk to some of them.