need help/advice after breakup?

-_- · #1 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 02:38 AM

i have decided to breakup with my gf, we only went on a few dates and i really liked her and she liked me too, we were friends for 6 months too.but suddenly shes gone off me and she saw a guy last weekend who she thinks is'clingy'and'a stalker'which she told me but i think shes still seeing him, i dont know :S she wont text me back, msg me or anything anymore. however she said this is because her parents wont let me see her.i called her last night to ask her out this weekend and she said she works all week n saturday now.. i asked her out sunday n she said would be tired and her parents wont let her out, the call ended in arguing so ive left a msg saying ive broken it with her.i then find out she is lying today! she is online on the internet even tho she said she was working today and she isnt speakin to me on msn either.. her name tho says'ha what a f'ing joke'what should i do? just ignore her? is there any way to get that interest back that she used to have for me?by ignoring i dont mean literally i just mean like not replyin to msgs, on msn she does but just acts more pally, thanks tes loved your answer

agilius · #2 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 09:10 PM

Dude, if she doesn't digg you, that's the situation. Instead of jumping all over her trying to make it right, sit back a few days (1~2 days) and think it out.Try to decide if it's worth having someone like her back. Think about what you want from a gf, and if she is really suited for the'job'.Some who simply starts ignoring you is not long term material. In my opinion this kind of thing should mean a fast breakup.However, if it's to hard to break up with her in a second, try to let her be a few days, then talk to her a little, ask her out once a week, then once a month and so on. Try talking to her about your new achievements -like the new girl that you like- and try to transform her into a good friend. She does know you a bit, so she could be a friend.Good luck

Tes · #3 (**permalink**) 02-12-2009, 01:40 AM

you should ignore her, it sounds like she's already ignoring you. And you'd be suprised at what happens when you do stop calling her. She will be calling you sooner or later. Right now your chasing her. Stop and just see what happens. If she doesn't get in touch with you, move on. Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option.