How do you get through the first couple days of a devastating breakup?

Jana D · #1 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 10:10 PM

I broke up with my boyfriend of three years yesterday, and he moved out of our house at my request. I'm not sure if the reasons why are the most important thing to discuss, but I know that what happened between us would make it almost impossible to get back together. How do I deal with this feeling like I can't breathe? I can't even look at our bed/home/furniture without bursting into tears. I feel like I've been stabbed in the heart. Any advice for coping?

zoe and skylar's mommy · #2 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 07:46 PM

you will get thru it. cry if you want. don't hold back on your emotions. but DON"T call him drunk at 3am and tell him that you love him

take it one day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time. prety soon you will see, it will hurt less and less by each passing day. go out with friends, keep yourself busy. it's hard, i've been there! Seems to me you feel it was the right thing to do, and that is a good step in the right direction. you knew it was going to hurt, but you did it anyway. sign of a strong person! You will make it through, and don't let anyone tell you that you should get over it. You get over it in your OWN time. Good luck to you.

ShOrTiE · #3 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 08:42 PM

Surround yourself with family and friends...keep your mind occupied...this will help but unfortunately the only thing that heals is time.

pumpkinslion · #4 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 12:50 AM

get a life, don't recycle pain,it is what it is

jigglyball26 · #5 (**permalink**) 01-11-2009, 05:48 AM

Poor Thing. I know how hard it is.Focus on the reason you broke up with him. There had to be a reason, right? Watch comedies, talk to friends, and if all else fails, go to the doctor. When my marriage came to an end I went to the doctor and they gave me some sleeping and nerve pills for the first month and it helped so much!! And they also refered me to a shrink to talk my feelings out.

valygirl7202 · #6 (**permalink**) 01-25-2009, 10:44 AM

First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. I know the pain you are feeling and sometimes you feel like it feels worse than if someone were to cut your arm off without drugs. lol All teasing aside, it sucks. It's going to suck for a while unfortunately, but time will heal your broken heart. I promise. It may seem like all you can do right now is cry and be sad, but you will start to come out of this. Try to keep yourself busy (but not by going out drinking, which will just make you even more depressed!!), join a club or a gym, go to church if you do that, hang out with friends and watch movies. Volunteer for your local community organizations. Or find something you love that you can take your aggressions out on--I started taking Tae Kwon Do lessons and I loved it! It kept me busy, kept me in shape, and I had something to work towards/to practice on.Hang in there...it WILL get better.

Chester the Molester · #7 (**permalink**) 02-03-2009, 04:20 PM

I don't always drink beer but when i do, I prefer Dos Equis.