question regarding breakup - need advice?

Dennis W · #1 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 07:11 PM

Here is the situation. Me and my girlfriend brokeup a couple of days ago. She has a friend from Austin who is visiting this friday. This is a guy she dated one time and apparently nothing came of it because the distance was too great. I was 100% ok with the dinner because I trusted her. Apparently the guy had asked if he could stay the night at her house Friday vs. driving back to Austin. I told her I fet uncomfortable with it. Later in the conversation I started overthinking things and told her I needed a few days to think. She took that as me walking out and as a result said she could not be with someone who walks out when things get rough. My question. Were my actions wrong and is it possible to win her back

Penelope · #2 (**permalink**) 01-07-2009, 03:35 AM

Oh come on now, can't you not see what is going on? She was looking for a reason a excuse, anything to justify breaking up with you, I mean suddenly this guy from Austin decides to visit and she breaks it off with you, doesn't this all seem a little off to you? But don't worry, once the guy returns home, she will most likely want you back, and if she does, you know the kinda girl you have in your life. Don't try to win her back, keep things simple and carefree, as the more you try, the further her ego will inflate and the further you will be pushed away.

Sage · #3 (**permalink**) 01-12-2009, 05:30 PM

Actually she is wrong because letting an ex stay at her house is a big deal. She should be understanding to your feelings. If anything, you should be mad at her and rightfully so.

Short_and_Sweet · #4 (**permalink**) 01-18-2009, 03:36 AM

Usually when a guy says he needs time to think, thats his way of breaking up with her. And if you and her were broke when when dude spent the night, why does that matter?