Need help making sense of a confusing breakup?

whitey · #1 (**permalink**) 01-07-2009, 11:32 PM

Over the last 2 months me and a girl from work have really hit off. Right before that we were both in long term relationships. We starting seeing each as a couple about a month ago and this began moving quickly. I was feeling a little bit confused with this as i still found i was often thinking of my ex. This new girl was so in to me and still admits i completely swept her off her feet. It was amazing how comfortable we felt with each other so soon, we were laying together one day just hugging and agreed on how right this felt. Anyway, on thursday night she broke things off with me saying she wasn't ready for this and that niether was i. As much as i agree with her i am suprised how bummed i feel about this ending considering how short a time we were together. I knew it was to soon but you cant help your feelings and chasing what you want. The thing is she says everything was great but the timing was off and because of our ex's we avoided public places so we didn't get to act like a proper couple. We both agreed this made things not feel right. My question is could we have ruined our chance together from rushing or is that really good connection we have something to base future hope on?

Brandie · #2 (**permalink**) 01-16-2009, 10:15 PM

Maybe she isn't completely healed from the last guy. See if you can try again in the long viewed future.

P S · #3 (**permalink**) 02-07-2009, 02:48 PM

It sounds like she verbalized what you were thinking too. But even though you agree with her, you are feeling rejected, which is a normal feeling. Just give it some time, try to not talk to her much if you can, don't see her outside of work, and look for other girls.This doesn't mean that you can't have a relationship in the future with her. You may, or you may not want to. Respect her honesty and realize that she saved you both from embarrassment and guilt. Good luck!

Emma17 · #4 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 01:15 PM

I don't think you've ruined it by rushing into things. A great piece of advice [Well, from a Scrubs episode!] that I use in my relationships is that if a relationships ment to be then one of the two will fight for it. I think you should probably talk to her and remain friends atleast, because someday, something might happen. However, I say, if you want something, you should go after it, and don't give up'cause you only have one life. I hope things improve for you soon. And I hope my advice helps.