Why do acts of love push people away after a breakup?

Sepdad29 · #1 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 05:04 AM

Ok, lets say you and your significant other just broke up. Now let's say you feel you want to try to make up with him/her. How come I love yous, flowers, or anything romantic doesn't work when they are mad at you? Let's go a step farther, why does ignoring them bring them closer to you?

Jaded · #2 (**permalink**) 01-25-2009, 05:08 AM

People want what they can't haveSo an ex that is not opening up to you is more appealing than one who will take you back with open arms.Most people like the challenge, although I do not think it is intentional

Ashfaque · #3 (**permalink**) 02-14-2009, 05:30 AM

its natural because time wanted to heal your pains.

Mr. · #4 (**permalink**) 02-15-2009, 07:06 PM

It has nothing to do with the breakup... some people get scared by acts of love.My wife says that every time I move closer to her it pushes her away.Unfortunately, if I don't move closer, i never get close to her.