Need after divorce dating advice?

I have been divorced for two years now. Ex had an affair. I have started dating someone for the first time since my divorce. I needed some time to be alone. But I now realize that I do not know how to be in a new relationship anymore! I am 40 - he is 42. Things are going very well but I don't even know when it is okay to call him or email him. How often?I sound like a 16 year old girl!! Which is kind of fun after the two years I went through. So...any advice on how to make this relationship work and not mess it up??

Glad to hear you took some time away from the dating scene to sort things out and have some alone time. Too many people rush right into a new relationship before the ink on the divorce decree has had time to dry.If things are going very well then you are obviously doing things right.It isn't so much a matter of when it is okay to call him or how often. What's more important is what men appreciate in women. Most men appreciate women who are independent but not too independent. Men appreciate women who are confident and secure. A man doesn't appreciate clingy types. Those kind of women appear desperate and tend to be pushy. This usually happens when the woman is worried that she is going to mess things up.There is an old adage,"A guy chases a girl until she catches him."Guys will never change in that way. They need the challenge of the chase. It is just in their makeup. That is how they get their validation. The challenge for you is to keep him interested. Playing hard to get is all part of the courtship. And most women have that wonderful 6th sense of knowing how to avoid playing too hard to get.What is more important right now isn't frequency but quality of contact. If the 2 of you have made arrangements to get together on the weekend sometime for an outing and it is only Monday, it would not be wise to be contacting him everyday during the week. You might want to but it would be a mistake. Guys have always needed to feel that they are flying the plane even though there is a flight engineer (you) laying out the course.Good luck. Keep yourself busy with your job, your friends and your other interests. Avoid making your special friend the center of your life (for the time being) and you will not have to worry about messing things up.