Speed dating or Hurry Date, as it's also known, is when you take an even number of men and women and place them in a social setting. Usually, the women will sit down, and the men will have 5-minutes, to introduce themselves speak to these women, before moving-on to the next woman in line. At the end of the evening, each woman, will have met, each man. Before the event begins, they are each given a card with the name of each person they'll be meeting on it. They can indicate their level of interest in that person on the card. If they both indicate, that they liked one another, the dating service will provide them with contact information.If Woman A likes Man B and Man B likes Woman A, then the service will give each of them the others contact information. If Woman A likes Man B, but Man B does not like Woman A, no contact information will be provided. Their must be mutual interest, before contact information is exchanged. Once contact information is exchanged, the two can decide if they would like a second date.The concept is, that you can tell in the first 5-minutes if you want to go-out with someone. I'm not sure I agree with this concept. However, I do believe you can tell if you don't want to go-out with someone, in the first 5-minutes. It's easier to tell if we don't like someone, then to tell if we do like them. The second date, is where we may decide if we actually do like them. They may have made a good first impression, but that's all it was, an impression. We wont know for sure, until we go out on a real date with them.There are a wide range of people who attend these events. They tend to be local singles. A good service will also limit the groups by age, to make sure they are more compatible. I say a good service, because not all of these services are good. Many have diffeculty just finding enough singles who want to participate. You'll often see flyers for these events on college campuses.These events can be expensive, is there is no gaurentee you'll meet anyone you do like. This can be true of nearly any dating method though. There is some level of desperation involved with using a service like this. That may not be true of everyone, but certainly many have tried other methods, and are using this as a last resort. Others may just be trying this as a creative new method. You never know though. You may just find someone special.There are other variations on the speed date. Another popular method is the dinner date. This is where you take 2-4 men and 2-4 women, and send them to a nice resteraunt. They are given dinner conversation ideas, but are basically just able to have a free flowing conversation over dinner. During that dinner, they can get to know one another. Some couples have said that this actually works better than a speed date. It's kinda like a group blind-date. The groups are small, so they appear more intimate. They are also small, so you can all have a nice conversation, with one another. Some people also like this, because guys can talk with other guys, and women can talk with other women during this event. Often that helps keep the conversation flowing smoothly. It feels more like a double-date, than some weird science project. At the end of the meal, if you have connected with someone at the table, you can choose whether or not to continue the date. The host, who works for the dating service, will often supervise, but not really interfere with the group dinner date. They mearly serve as a person who will help you to exchange contact information, provide security, provide topic suggestions, and may even provide ideas of where to go after dinner, if you meet someone you like.
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