Do some people just not like to kiss? I'm dating someone who seems to not like hugging and kissing. Advice?

Jack K · #21 (**permalink**) 07-19-2010, 09:45 PM

My boyfriend's similar. I'm a very tactile person but he likes a few kisses and a hug and he's happy! It's just different likes and dislikes! It's what you're comfortable with although it can be misconstrued as a rejection sometimes!! Especially if you just want a hug!

Iris J · #22 (**permalink**) 07-20-2010, 09:45 PM

Not big on kissing- I don't like someones face all up in my grill. I will however, kiss my GF other places, and allow her to kiss me other places, so for us, its not a real big deal.

I don't like it all that much, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

lawstudentjsh · #23 (**permalink**) 07-24-2010, 09:45 PM

Maybe you are kissing the wrong spot

Fuzz · #24 (**permalink**) 07-27-2010, 09:45 PM

It could be a number of things
1) bad hygiene ( her or you )
2) she does not like the way you kiss
3)not fully comfortable
why don't you ask her about it ..

JeSSiBuG · #25 (**permalink**) 07-28-2010, 09:45 PM

take regular shower and brush your teeth.

ZCT · #26 (**permalink**) 08-01-2010, 09:45 PM

I dated a guy who used to stick his tongue down my throat every time we kissed...little kisses were not okay with him...It got really annoying. He wasn't a bad kisser he just wanted to make-out all the time...even when I was just running to the store.

He would even pout and say "You haven't kissed me in 6 hours, is something wrong?"

I hated it! It may just be that you want to make out too much or that she doesn't like doing it in public.

* F r A n ♥ C a L u M * · #27 (**permalink**) 08-05-2010, 09:45 PM

I think,some people don't like kissing and hugging. And another thing might be,breath. If that's straight,things should be OK. Y.

Truth Seeker · #28 (**permalink**) 08-07-2010, 09:45 PM

How much do you like this person?
Communication is best so talk openly about it to them. If you don't like what you hear from them then move on.

Cheshire Cat!~ · #29 (**permalink**) 08-12-2010, 09:45 PM

well maybe in moderation....just ask her about it...you never know maybe she was raped or sodomized in some way..

JuStCurious! · #30 (**permalink**) 08-17-2010, 09:45 PM

Get a breath mint slap nuts.

Wop P · #31 (**permalink**) 08-20-2010, 09:45 PM

Yes. I was like that for a long time after my last relationship because of how he use to kiss so it made me Leary about kiss in somebody else. I wasn't a touchy feel wanna hug an snug type either, because of once again my past. It took for me to actually be with somebody who cared for me as much as I cared for them in order for me to start loving those things. The guy I'm with now I can't get enough kisses from him and love being up under him and all that so sometimes it can depend on how much they like you as well as what made them that way in the first place.

icyaiko · #32 (**permalink**) 08-25-2010, 09:45 PM

That's weird. Maybe she just isn't that experienced(a good thing)and is afraid of doing it wrong. Maybe she just needs more practice. Or maybe she is afraid it will lead to things she isn't ready for. It's hard to say. Maybe you should ask her, cause if you cant discuss little things like this then what happens when a biggie comes up. Good Luck

gabriel1971 · #33 (**permalink**) 08-28-2010, 09:45 PM

This is not normal behavior in a relationship..something terrible could have happened to them or they just dint fancy you and are using you.

NoBoysAllowed · #34 (**permalink**) 08-31-2010, 09:45 PM

Maybe women us ally don't like to kiss on dates till the third one Lil.

First of all, you can't just directly kiss a woman. You gotta touch her first. Put your hands softly and gentle on her hips. Don't put your hands around her waist yet, just put your hands on her waist. Make sure she feels your hands on her hips but don't put it on her like you're groping her. Just gentle.

When you kiss, always make eye contact. You can tell if she wants to kiss by looking at her eyes. And slowly kiss her. As you kiss her, you can now slowly put your hands around her waist to bring to her closer.

Remember that movie, Hitch with will smith? go in 80% and then she goes 20%. Maybe she doesn't want a guy to go in all over like that.

If she kinda rejects, then you maybe you messed up. Go on another date if you're willing to make it up.

Good Luck!