I have found out that my sister is secretly dating another man - SHE IS MARRIED WITH 2 GIRLS 7 + 8 YR - HELP?

monica b · #21 (**permalink**) 08-25-2010, 09:06 AM

First thing's first, speak to your sister. You know what 'Chinese whispers are like, people get their wires crossed. The worst thing you can do is to ignore the situation, even if it turns out not to be true, then at least you will have piece of mind.
On the other hand, if it is true, then you will have to discuss it, as a lot of people are liable to get hurt. Whatever you do, do not say anything to her husband, i am not saying that you are siding with your sister, don't let the information come from you if it is true.

I've fucking had it!!!! · #22 (**permalink**) 08-27-2010, 09:06 AM

Have a word with your sister in the first instance and tell her what she is doing to her kids - in the long run (if hubby found out) she could lose her kids. Hubby could make it very nasty for her if it went to court. If she won't listen to you then have a discreet word with hubby - he will appreciate it coming from you rather than finding out the hard way, which he will eventually if you don't intervene.

Metalup87 · #23 (**permalink**) 08-30-2010, 09:06 AM

If it was my sister I would talk to her openly and calmly.

I would never tell her husband because it may just be evil gossip! And it may be a fling that blows over. She is an adult its her life and with her children involved I would tread really carefully.

It may help to say if you know about it others will find out too!

Ben H · #24 (**permalink**) 09-04-2010, 09:06 AM

the best thing you can do is keep out of it as your sister will fall out with you and you will be made the lire

Ashley. · #25 (**permalink**) 09-05-2010, 09:06 AM

Stay out of it, it's her life just be there for her if it all goes wrong.

Mabel · #26 (**permalink**) 09-07-2010, 09:06 AM

OMG!! TELL HER HUSBAND ASAP!! It is the best choice for this, and will and the least amount of anger and hurt in it, but, if you don't tell him, he may find out the hard way, and there will be even more tears shed, and nobody wants that. You will not make things worse by telling him, and it will get worse if you don't tell him....she may start sleeping with her new bf. I would talk to my sister (if I were you) and if she blows the roof finding out that you know, tell her husband. Tell your parents. If I found that out that my bro was cheating on his wife, I would confront him, tell his wife, and tell our parents. The more people on your side, the safer you are. If your sis gets ticked at you, just say that it was the best thing to do. Do the right thing, and tell someone quickly, not us at Yahoo! Answers.