I have just started dating a man from India and need help please?

cell200311 · #1 (**permalink**) 06-27-2010, 12:01 AM

I just have concerns with everything I have heard from friends and family since we started dating..I haven't asked him because it's early and I don't want to pry too much..He was born in India but has lived here in the u.s for 10 years...my question is do 32 year old men still participate in arranged marriages? He has a very good job, apartment, dog..he seems settled here. Also he is from a very modern area in India..he also went to a Christian school there, does that make a difference?..Also will Indian men always marry Indian women..I don't want to fall for him or be strung along..I like him alto already..any advice would be so appreciated. Thanks so much!

jinxmalfoy · #2 (**permalink**) 06-28-2010, 12:01 AM

You know the answers to your questions when/if you meet his family.

Good luck!

PassionWink · #3 (**permalink**) 07-03-2010, 12:01 AM

Hi. I am a man from India too. I am 33. I have been living here for the past 20 years and would live here for the rest of my life. No, Indian men do NOT still participate in arranged marriages. Only a few of them do. Over here its unheard of. I would NOT be doing arranged marriage myself. Its also not true that Indian will always marry Indian women. There are many Indian men here who married white women. Just feel comfortable and don't worry. If he truly loves you he would marry you.

catintrepid · #4 (**permalink**) 07-08-2010, 12:01 AM

Well everything in Indian culture is has changed and is till changing; its not conservative as it used to be even tho i am just 17 and Hindu i told my parents that i am going to find my own wife and they were OK with they said as long as we can all live as a big whole happy family and she like our culture and customs.

dia · #5 (**permalink**) 07-10-2010, 12:01 AM

You shouldn't make assumptions about the fact all Indian people have or condone arranged marriages, not all agree with it. They are Christian also so marring into someone of the same faith isn't usually something Christian's are strong on but then it depends how seriously he takes his religion. Men and women of any age can have an arranged marriage but people who do this don't usually have boyfriends or girlfriends before they are engaged this isn't done much in India. The fact hes dating you would suggest hes not bothered about any of these so called Indian rules, But do check he's not in his sewing his wild oats faze before settling down with a nice Indian girl. Although he does sound a bit old for that now. also its silly not to ask even this early on why not have a conversation about arranged marriages in general you will them most likely hear his views on the subject.