Do I get married with a newborn or move the wedding date back and get married sooner?! HELP!?
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Do I get married with a newborn or move the wedding date back and get married sooner?! HELP!?
My fiance and I are planning a wedding on October 8Th of this year and I just found out that i was 6 weeks pregnant. Although the doctors have not calculated my exact due date yet it will be around 2 weeks before the wedding according to my own calculations. Everything is happening so quick and I don't know what to do. Do we move the wedding date back to before the due date or keep our current date and have the newborn with us on the wedding day? I just started the wedding dress fitting process and although i have not selected the dress yet I'm not sure how to pick a dress considering that I will be bigger than what i am now, not knowing how big i will actually get. How does one go about picking a size and fit? what should i do? I'm a bride/mom to be in distress and need some help. Also i am scared to tell my family that I am pregnant. It took my parents a while to even accept me getting married but now with the baby news I'm not sure how they would take it. This can potentially harm my relationship with my parents for good or at least temporally until they process the news. Even though I am 28 years old and should do what i want and live my life the way i want, knowing how my parents are, which is not too accepting, pretty much scares me. My fiance wants the baby but I'm just confused, i feel like there's a lot of pressure on me and i don't know what to do about it.
First, on telling your parents, that's perfectly understandable. Just because we grow into adults and can legally make all our own choices doesn't mean we want their approval. I'm 34 and I still get antsy having to tell them certain things.
On the rest, you absolutely need to change the date! For one thing, first babies are often late. You may not be up to attending a wedding, but even if you are, your baby won't have the immune system yet to be exposed to large crowds. And it also makes no sense to have the 2 biggest events of your life practically the same day. Wedding planning is stressful.
So reduce stress by removing the big wedding on Oct 6. What's happening is far more important. Then find a quiet time (maybe even dinner out) and talk this through with your fiance. How critical is it to you to be married before the baby arrives? If it's critical, then start planning a scaled down wedding for a couple months from now . Just gather your nearest and dearest in a backyard or restaurant and do it there.
Weddings are awesome events, but they can assume too much importance at times. If you and your fiance develop a simplified plan (which involves reallocating expenses to decorating a baby's room!) you'll feel much better, and it will also be easier to present all this to your parents. They're more likely to get inboard with all of it if you seem calm and in control.
you don't want to have a newborn and a wedding because you won't be able to put yourself first on your special day. i say get married sooner. that's just my opinion.
You live in the U.S? That makes safe and legal abortion an option. You could always speak to a Planned Parenthood representative just to learn more. Then you can go on with your wedding and life as per your plan.
If you decide to continue the pregnancy, I would move the wedding up to happen asap.
Honestly, I would move the wedding up and scale back on it as needed.
My child would come first, I couldn't justify spending $800 on a photo-booth knowing I would need to buy diapers, medicine and other things for the baby. My dream baby would be more important to me than my dream wedding.
In any event while unexpected and maybe shocked any good parent would accept what they have been dealt with. I'm speaking of your parents here not you. Most parents accept and the good and bad that comes with having children. They're not going to love you or your baby less. They may show some disappointment that you didn't wait to get pregnant til after your wedding but they will get over it.
I was recently in a situation similar to yours. My wedding is in August and I became unexpectedly pregnant. My fiance and I were planning to move the wedding up and make it a much smaller affair with his kids and just our immediate family (parents, siblings & their families, and grandparents). However, we lost our baby so we are proceeding with August as planned.
As far as dresses, dresses these days are very flattering at being able to hide a tummy. My cousin was 6 months pregnant when she married, and really you couldn't tell unless you knew.
holy Molly, congrats x2! well you can't bring a newborn to a wedding, especially if you're nursing. your baby won't be on a good schedule in the first few mos, so it would be impossible for you to devote a whole day to your wedding.
you can't tell anyone you're pr ego until 12 weeks anyway, so just chill out for now. definitely call your vendors and tell them the wedding is postponed until next year. you can pick a date sooner and see if the vendors are available, and get married with a baby bump! I'd get married before the baby comes if I were you, just scale things back to save $$$$ because you're gonna need it for that baby.
Do I get married with a newborn or move the wedding date back and get married sooner?! HELP!?
