mature advice on dating anyone?

Veronica K · #1 (**permalink**) 08-09-2010, 12:59 PM

Okay....So its been a while since I have dated? Should I be upset if the person took me out and asked me out for a second date but then can celled plans for the second date? The first date was awesome we both agreed. He canceled with a reason that I thought was understandable, and said that we would reschedule the date on his next weekend off?

What are the rules about calling the guy. Should I feel like I don't know when the right time is to call him? Don't want to be the one doing all of the calling.

Folks dating is complicated... any advice is helpful

Smartie Pants · #2 (**permalink**) 08-14-2010, 12:59 PM

i think i would let a few days go by before i gave him a " how you doing call ?" you dint want to come off as desperate or pushy. after that i would wait for him to give you a call , if he does he is still wanting to go out, if he doesn't well then keep on trucking. plenty of men , and i use that word lightly, out there . good luck !

BROCK · #3 (**permalink**) 08-17-2010, 12:59 PM

Be careful with the rules game, you don't want to be the desperate middle aged woman who tells every guy she meets that she "doesn't have time to waste".

Consider this, if he's a successful guy with lots of options, you can bet those other women won't have the same reservations about calling that you do.

646 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-18-2010, 12:59 PM

Text him. That is the dating of today. No awkward silences and if he doesn't get back to you it's not like you will feel weird. Just send a text that says "Hi, what's up?"

Zer0 · #5 (**permalink**) 08-22-2010, 12:59 PM

I never am the first one to call or text. (I actually just went out with a guy last niter and am refusing to be the first to call. If he wants to talk to me he will... and if he had a good time, which he did then he will want to talk to me again, its really that simple!) Its a rule I have and has work well so far. Guys seem to be sensitive about girls expecting/ wanting too much to soon. He said he wanted to reschedule so WAIT for him to reschedule. Use the times that your together to show him how much you like him but dint call and text him at least until after the 3rd or 4Th date. Then keep it light like " hope you re having a good day" or something funny that you think of

You never want to come across as pushy or desperate which guys' senses are extremely heighten to. Play it cool,show him that you re a person he can have fun with, be comfortable and himself around and also be a friend and girlfriend. You'll be fine just have patience and class

qinqinkathy · #6 (**permalink**) 08-26-2010, 12:59 PM

Things come up so it's important to be flexible and cool, but if it starts to happen more than once, then move on!

You've only had one date, so personally I would hold off on calling him...he can celled on YOU, let him come after you. Or, you could take the bull by the horns and invite him to lunch one day or out for a drink after work. Go with your gut...

reann · #7 (**permalink**) 08-30-2010, 12:59 PM

Like a river.....just let it flow. Give it a couple of days and call him. Shows your interested, but not too desperate. He is looking to reschedule, so he likes you. Don't stress it

Schatz · #8 (**permalink**) 09-02-2010, 12:59 PM

r u desperate?.. i doubt it. wait for him to call u b4 u start to look like a stalker. men like to chase women just a little. while u r sitting here worrying about him, he's probably out somewhere. u need to make other plans to get him off of Ur mind. it was only one date, y'all ain't married so stop stressing.

katieee01 · #9 (**permalink**) 09-05-2010, 12:59 PM

if he can celled with no reason i think u MUST NOT contact him first anymore. either forget him or wait till he contacts u again. probably he changed his mind and decided he doesn't need u in his life so if u start calling him u will seem desperate and clingy and it won't change anything anyway - if a man doesn't want u he won't start wanting u after u call him. if i were u i wouldn't cal. have some dignity!!!