Help dating advice because I keep pissing off my new g/f...

Father of one G.A.H. · #1 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 09:34 AM

Your Open QuestionShow me another »Help dating advice because I keep pissing off my new g/f...I just started dating my g/f and she keeps getting irritated with me. We talk a lot on the phone and texting. Everytime we talk I seem to bring up my ex-wife, and I seem to elaborate on the reason for my divorce; is this something normal and what should be expected or is it something I shouldn't do or be talking about so often. I have been divorced for 2 years and I am completely over my ex-wife and I am really falling in love with my new g/f more and more each day. I need advice on this situation and the more information the better, thx!Baby ( I knew you would read this so this is dedicated to you with love from me!) I love you!

borderline_beautiful · #2 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 05:28 AM

honestly, you shouldnt even be bringing her up, no matter if u keep sayin y u got divorced or say u dont care 4 her. cuz if u bring her up, then shes gunna think u still do care, cuz u want 2 talk about her. good or bad. shes on your mind and daz wut iz probably bothering her. jus think if u were in her position, if she kept bringing up her ex, but she still said y they broke up. wouldnt u b lyke'why da fuck is she thinkin bout him or takin bout him when shes wit me?'daz jus a big no-no

Megzy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 10:02 AM

If you want her to stop getting so pissed off about you, ditch the stories about your ex-wife. Pretend she never even existed!! Talking about exes is something you NEVER want to do unless it casually comes up in conversation. With you talking about your ex, your GF thinks you still have a thing for her [even if you don't], and starts to feel like the rebound girl. And trust me, no one wants to be a rebound. Even though it's been two years, to me, it sounds like you're either not over her yet like you claim to be, or you have nothing better to talk about. If you want to keep this girlfriend, ditch the ex talk.

renee · #4 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 10:14 AM

alright well first of all she is right to be angry i know that is not what you want to hear but you need to understand what she is feeling instead of asking us ask her how you can make her happy because you talking about your ex-wife makes her believe that you are still in love with her and that hurts her especially if you do it often no matter how many times you tell her that you do not love your ex- wife any more it may be hard for her to swallow so you need to think what if she has a past of being hurt so she might be acting like she is pissed but she could very well just have old wounds that you are opening also put yourself in her position if she was talking about an ex wouldn't that make you wonder if she would rather be with him instead of you good luck and take care