Is it rude to ask someone you're dating for dating advice?

Linn T · #1 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 06:14 AM

There's this guy. I thought he was into me because we went out five times and seemed to click.Then out of nowhere I get an email from him that says, and I quote,"Deep down inside I know that I'm looking to settle down with that special someone. The dating scene is so crappy in our area. Do you think that there're any churches in our area that have a singles ministry I could join?"

Why? · #2 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 04:50 PM

I will think so. Between the 76 million around he has to ask You? Like... help me find someone really"worth it to fall for"... Tell him go find a forest and get lost... if you know what I mean. . I'm glad he is away from you he is a jerk. Good Luck

DeadSurvivor · #3 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 01:45 PM

Not so much as longs as it doesn't seem like your being pushed or you're pushing for something. Regualr harmless adivce is ok in my opinion.

Michele in CT · #4 (**permalink**) 12-16-2008, 03:25 AM

That is a jerk, plain&simple! Maybe he thought that you were just"hanging out". If you feel comfortable about it, ask him about it. If the two of you were intimate, let the air out of his tires- LOL (only kidding!) Gosh....!You'll meet someone great, don't you worry

Nick K · #5 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 08:22 PM

he was very rude. he was basically tellig you that he is NOT interested in you and that he wants to look for another person.

hopflower · #6 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 06:37 AM

In a word, yes. But I guess you found out what type he is; so you can now move on.

divers_godeeper · #7 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 01:43 AM

uh yeah thats rude....I hope you steered him wrong. I would take that as I'm not the special someone and he wants you to help him find her.....screw him....send him on a wild goose chase.

Rachel S · #8 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 06:09 PM

i dont thin khe semmed you click and yes thats very rude so i think you should just tell him that it was rude for him to ask that and to keep going on dates if he wasnt itnrested

staciaface · #9 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 07:52 PM

that does seems sorta rude, especially if you thought he was into you. maybe he was doing it as a trick/test. he says that he does want to settle down. maybe you need to communicate that you want to move your relationship forward. if he says that he didnt think you were an item and isnt into you like that then tell him to send you the link to those singles groups.