I need help with this complicated situation? NEED FEMALE ADVICE please.?

Rob · #1 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 07:46 PM

I like this girl and yesterday as a joke I said"have fun, let me know if there are any good looking shorties at the party haha"I was waiting for a response before I said JK and she said"ill def hit you up if I see some fly girls...the girls around here suck anyways"So later in the night I ended up going to the same party and I text her while outside"so are there any good looking fly girls at the party or are you the only one?"and she replied"im the only one... and my friend ofcourse".So I was outside and she was going home and i called out her name and she came over to me and started talking to me about how wack the party was and how wack the guys and girls were. She gave me a nice big hug and cheek kiss. When we started talking, its like my friends became invisible to me and her, I SWEAR this was the first time I ever looked this deeply into a girls eye and she was staring right back at my eyes looking up(im tall she is very short). I don't even remember what we were talking about but her eyes were so beautiful. We were both just smiling and talking, and for a good 2 minutes we were lost in that and then we exchanged cheek kisses, she went to her friends car and went home.For a while now she has been giving me mixed signal, but I think that's more than just friends. No other regular female friend has ever locked eyes like we did. Right before she left its like we both knew we were staring at each other in the eyes and my friends started saying something she was just saying"yeahhhhhhhhh"but she had like a expression on her face right around the end where basically our eyes knew and agreed that we were staring into them and we smiled. Its hard to explain the wonderful feeling I had and that her eyes were saying she approved.The comment from her is what is bugging me, I thought I would get a different reaction, she basically said she is gonna help me find a girl, which she KNOWS is not a problem with me. For a while now she has been acting jealous but today it was just anti-jealous, like she wants me to meet other women. I am so confused, whats going on?BTW as another joke/reply to the"the girls here suck anyways"i said"yeah nyc got the best looking girls""i got one in each boro and 2 on the island"and then I said"im just kidding"and she didn't reply to any of that. Also when everything was said and done my friend without me mentioning anything about liking her, he said"damn she was soooo into you"I did text her today about 6 hours ago saying"its snowing

"but I got no response.

Biscuithead. · #2 (**permalink**) 12-16-2008, 11:12 AM

Well, maybe she met someone elseThats what happened to the guy who liked me,

Tammy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 01:28 AM

Be a grown up and stop playing games with her. Girls like honesty. Just tell her how you feel and if she doesn't like you, then tell to help you find someone.

Girl with Truthiness · #4 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 11:27 AM

I know you've got your finger on the phone, ready to text again... but wait! Its easy to go full force since you've already liked her, and now you feel like you got some validation back from her. But slowwwwww... don't text again. For at least another 24 hrs. Maybe even 48. You don't want to push her away. You mentioned that she was already giving mixed signals and so if she doubts her decision to date you- for whatever reason- it will only be magnified if she feels smothered, got it?Us girls are weird. But guys are too.PS It's not snowing where I am. ;-)

shawty · #5 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 05:39 PM

sorry i would help but i have no idea why you guys had a connection like that.i just got excited cos you mentioned NYC&it was snowing.haha =]

Trish · #6 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 01:50 AM

She wants you to move on her. Be a hero and get on with it

and then I said · #7 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 02:28 PM

I think that maybe she might think you are serious when you ask her to find a girl for you.I remember, before my boyfriend and I started dating we were just friends. We went to the beach one day, and I was laying on the beach getting some sun, and he was in the water - and this hot girl came up and asked me where I got my bathing suit. I guess he saw her come up to me because he was like,"who was that?"and I told him what she had asked and he said,"did you get her number for me? haha"And even though I knew it was a joke, it still put me off and made me act"anti-jealous"as you put it, for a while - just to show him that I didn't care what he did.

Klarissa S · #8 (**permalink**) 03-15-2009, 06:36 AM

Ok you have to stop with those kind of jokes. Cause if she does like you all that is telling her is that you don't like her. So STOP. now for ever thing else. The thing about her trying to get you with other girls.If she likes you she is just trying to see if you will do it. Well for what you said about the whole eyes locked thing is sounds like there was a little more then just talking. She might just be afraid to say she wont's you. Cause as you say it is not hard for you to get girls. Now what you need to do is try to base things on her. Ok just put your best foot first and show her it is her and not no one else. And tell her to stop with the trying to help you find someone. Tell her you have your eyes on someone else and hint that the girl is her. ok sorry so long

jcelyn l · #9 (**permalink**) 03-27-2009, 05:10 AM

Those girl she have feeling with you and she said she looking for you a nice girl its mean, she dint mean that inside here she love you.She wait hing only that you tell here your feeling. its better tell here thetruth before its to late,

wilsonvivian77 · #10 (**permalink**) 05-15-2009, 08:33 AM

my goodness! Dude... really ..u need to stop the girl joking stuff ..that's why she is finding you another girl... she was first jealous because she thought you really liked her.. but u could of changed her mind because your jokes ..really its a turn off.. anyways she might of thought you were not serious about her... you just need to talk to her in person and tell her how you feel... promise me no joking girls tho..k.. just talk to her .. she either will like you back (which I think she will) or reject you.. so be brave.. by the way SMACK.. on your head because it felt good...