need again a female advice?

friendsseason9 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 07:53 AM

for reference, just chek my previous questions plsi have been faithful to my wife all along and now i found after 9 yrs of marriage that she is cheating on me, and its second time. I dont want to behave like a typical husband and throw her out (i do have feel like). I want her to understand that in life infatuations are gonna be there, but love wouldnt with them... how do i convince her? or, second thought.. maybe she found someone better than me, should i just let go? I guess the second thought maybe right, but then we have a kid ...3-yr-old, whos gonna answer his questions? what am i going to tell him about his mom?

sean a · #2 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:10 PM

dont stay for the kid u can take care ov him without living with them. i guess ur waiting around for that ole saying third times a charm??? she isnt happy with u guys sex or either ur too nice . most likely both sorry. nice guys always finish last!!!no way around it. uh no ur not behaving like the typical husband cuz the typical husband would have went out a cheated and kept doing it!!!! let it burn man!!!!!as long as she knows ur the door knob she is gonna turn u everytime!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**Llola** · #3 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 05:45 AM

First off you don't tell him anything about his mother. This matter is between you and your wife and you shouldn't be involving your son. He'll come to his own conclusions when he's older.I don't really know what to say about the situation you are in. I think she sounds like a serial cheater and will cheat again. If she's sorry and you can forgive her then maybe you should give it another chance but if she screws up again then I think you should let her go, you deserve more than that.Good luck!

Sweet_One · #4 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 08:20 AM

First of all I'm sorry for this happening to you. Sometimes this happens because people lack communication skills and if they don't like something about their significant other they just try to avoid the problems and escape somewhere else. Maybe she feels that something is missing in the marriage. I believe you can forgive and forget if you really love her but the question is does she feel the same about you. Try having a deep conversation about everything that is concerning you as well as her. If you feel that you can make it work which I encourage then you should go to marriage counseling. Also don't think because you have a child that you have to stay with the person for eternity. Sometimes people who aren't right for each other have kids. You can both be good parents without being together. So it's all really up to you and how you feel inside your heart. Good Luck!

Mekia · #5 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 01:30 PM

if she doesn't understand or wants to, she doesn't care. let her tell your son y she's abandoning him. you might just need to move on.

foxy l · #6 (**permalink**) 05-25-2009, 04:01 PM

i cannot believe u thinking about giving second chances how could u do that to us human mankind. let that woman suffer. u need to be brave rather than be soooooooooooooo understanding and tyring to get her guilt trip. that women is not happy with u. u need to find someoen who will surely give ur son their love. she is not worth beign his mother. i bet u me a girl found someone with a son i will love them both more than their real mother.thanks