I need Female advice..how do i deal with this..?

steve j · #1 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 03:41 PM

I dated this girl for about 6 weeks...than i pushed her away..ive been trying for the past 2 months to get her back...where finnaly on talking terms again and things seem to be going pretty good..we had lunch 2 saturdays ago..and it went really good..i talked to her last monday...wed..and friday..trying to set somthing up...yesterday i emailed her and asked if she wanted to go to lunch somtime this week....she said this week is crazy for her at least until thursday..but possibly friday would be ok....i responded even though everybody said i should play the game where i wait till thursday to ask her out for lunch fri..but i dont play games..even though she kinda is...i replied with friday could be good..will have to set somthing up...was i wrong to respond with that? how should i follow through with the next contact?

LIZA · #2 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 10:50 PM

Gooood now you know the feeling jerk.

CATHERINE M · #3 (**permalink**) 01-19-2009, 09:00 PM

Of course it was the right thing to do! I can't be bothered with the"rules". I think they cause more problems than they solve.Good luck with the date. **Cliche alert** Just be yourself and it'll work out for the best. It's true though.

Amy D · #4 (**permalink**) 03-04-2009, 07:01 AM

yeah thats fine just get ahold of her thursday night to make plans for friday.

girlnextdoor409 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-15-2009, 08:42 PM

go with the flow, don't play games.

sweetlips · #6 (**permalink**) 03-20-2009, 04:10 PM

you need to move on she has someone don't waste your time she's playing you

moonatic · #7 (**permalink**) 04-04-2009, 09:50 AM

men have have a tendency to pull away from relationships from time to time and its perfectly normal , but the trick is not getting wrapped up in the moment.Next time you feel the need to do this then, talk to your partner and let her know that you need to catch some air but still want her and you will come back , if she is openminded enough she will understand. now shes for sure ignoring you now becuz you didnt quite clearly express why did you pull away from her , be sincere and explain all this to her before she keeps on getting the wrong idea about you.

Patrick · #8 (**permalink**) 05-18-2009, 03:51 AM

You didn't say how she responded to other attempts in past 2 months. The one incident you did describe sounds reasonable. Do you have reason to believe her not dropping everything the second you call is some kind of game? Or does she simply have competing demands for her time? Sometimes it's hard with email because you don't get to gauge tone of voice or sincerity. And nothing is right or wrong. It is all what works for you. I think you are right to trust your instincts and not go with"everybody"who assumes this is a game. It might be, but there's certainly doesn't sound like much evidence of it from this brief description. People have busy weeks, lunch hours aren't always easy to get away.Good luck.