A dead relationship... Female advice is definately welcome.?
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A dead relationship... Female advice is definately welcome.?
We started out perfectly from the second we met. We always had fun together no matter what happened. After 6 months, external factors (job, family, friends etc) gave us both so much stress. I was so stressed out that sometimes i lay in bed all day. We started fighting in nov - december and it got worse in Jan. I was a whole different person and I've never been that angry in my entire life. We both said insane things to each other. Thinking back it's almost as if I was possed by the devil haha... We broke up. Now its 5-6 months later. 2 (feb-march) months after the break up, id call to see if she was ok. She'd get mad and acted completely cold. I saw her in the 3rd month (april), and she was crying. she kissed me, hugged me... In may I saw her again. She acted cold and later appologised saying"it was a defense thing."Thats the short of it. email me for details, but any ideas on how to revive this? I feel like she's trying hard to convince herself that she doesn't love me..You guys had some amazing responses. I know deep down she loves me. I feel it. I know the people around her are trying to make her forget about me. They're also trying to hook her up. She's been looking for a new guy and being intro'd to guys by her friend. I feel like she's trying to find a husband just to try and get back what she had with me. When she talks about any guy she says"he's a decent guy"in a"blah"tone. It's like she's settling in the hopes of moving on. In April (3rd month aftr brk up), when she agreed to meet me, she kissed me and hugged me tightly. She kept crying. I know that she misses me and loves me. She doesn't talk to me or anything. I know she's trying hard to not let me remind her of anything to do with us. She was my fiance, and we were going out for over a year. As for the stress, it was so bad that it made me phsyically sick. If anyone would like to hear all the details, please email me or leave an email. I'm trying to keep this brief cuz of the limit.
y do u stil care so much of her since both of u already broke up?yourself already call it DEAD r/s,y do u stil care?do u stil love her?r u waiting for her answer in order for u to make a move.?
She may still love you, but feel that you guys are better off apart. The best thing you can do for both of you is talk to her if/when she wants to, but back off when she's feeling on the defensive. Getting over a relationship is hard, getting over it when you still care about them is even harder. You may never get back into a relationship with her, but you may come out the end of this as friends because you respect her need for distance right now. Later on down the road, you never know what might happen then. I wish you both the best of luck.
Since it takes time to really get to know someone, perhaps you two just aren't a good mix. Why TRY to mix if the elements just aren't there. ALL relationships are wonderful in the beginning. Then slowly it really starts to settle in. I say remain friends if you can and if its too stressful....LET IT GO!!!
She's probably hurting just as bad as you are and needs some space or maybe she wants the 2 of you to go out and do something as friends to see if you two can be friends. She might just not know how to act around you since you did break up.
If you want this to work out then go tell her you want it to work out....Go to counseling if you think it would help because in the long run it does help. Good luck :-)
A dead relationship... Female advice is definately welcome.?
