more female advice please?

love warrior · #1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 12:34 PM

we are a couple in early 40's together 10 years. few days ago my girlfriend told me she didn't love me anymore and wants to break up. She says she wants to be inlove again. She said the sex was always good 4,5 times a week. We are still talking at this point and I'm glad she told me the truth but last night when I was about to leave she wanted sex so I did. I left then came back a few hours later and she seemed bummed cause I was back. She said she wasn't sure she was doing the right thing, When I was gone she starting to feel it then it went away when I came back. I'm confussed..

Poppy · #2 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 12:04 PM

So is she. Sounds like hormones to me. They can sure cause a lot of confusion.

Bunny · #3 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 07:00 AM

Wow. You're adults in your 40's having this type of problem? She uses you for sex? It's not enough and she doesn't love you anymore? Hey, what's wrong with this picture? Sex is hardly the sincere true foundation of MOST long term relationships -and if it is? You guys have a real problem...You two sound like 18 year old kids...Really scary!Sincerely,Grace

Barb Outhere · #4 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 07:09 AM

This seems to be an unusual twist on the old"Wants you for sex, but doesn't want you"scenario. Its unusual in as much as its the woman doing that to a man. But my answer is the same even if the sexes were reversed.Is this enough for you? If yes, let it be. If no, move on.

Frenchie · #5 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 06:20 PM

I'm confussed as well. She doesn't want to be with you but she'll bang you. That's nice. She's has no idea what she's doing....run, buddy, run.

itsalltrue12 · #6 (**permalink**) 02-06-2009, 09:10 AM

give her some more space and no sex. that's clouding her judgment.

Ms.Kawana Ya'll♥ · #7 (**permalink**) 03-03-2009, 05:36 PM

So sounds to me like you two need to take a long break from each other and stay away and have no more than two calls a day.If that.My H2B is working far away right now and I feel as though I have fallen in love with him all over again.I miss him more than I ever have and time apart really helps.

lisey · #8 (**permalink**) 04-02-2009, 02:10 AM

shes gotta be confused and hormonalshe still wants yuou but she is thinking that she doesnttry not giving her sex next time and then she ll most likly want you to come back just say IF WE ARE NOT TOGETHER I CANT GIVE YOU MY PENIS and walk away soon shell relise she wants you

phillips811 · #9 (**permalink**) 05-25-2009, 10:12 AM

as a female i'm telling you she is using you for sex//// women can"play"things just like guys can"play"things..... please don't forget that. if she says she doesnt love you but turns around and can have sex with you then the emotions and feelings for you are gone and the physical is all she wants.... from a 19 year old college student to a 40 year old man i'm telling you to leave.......... unless you want to stay around and get hurt.