I need female advice on this please - I'm a little confused.?

Rick R. Mortis · #1 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 08:19 PM

A little over a year ago I became quick friends with a girl at work, we just have lots in common - and after work we started going out for drinks with some other friends. Then we started hanging out just the two of us, watching TV, going to movies, things like that. In the 6 months we've been hanging out, nothing has ever happened.Since we talk, she knows that I'm in 6 year relationship that has gone pretty bad and for about a month now she's been really different with me. It started when I found out that at work people were joking that we were secretly dating - everybody knows I live with my girlfriend and that we're hanging out a lot, but I told her it bothered me because my relationship does suck. Then she tells me in a joking way that maybe she's just waiting for me to end things with my girlfriend so we can date.Is that the type of thing girls say to a guyfriend? I think there's always a bit of serious in every comment, but I don't know how girls work.One odd thing that stands out is that she invited me to a friend's theatre show, which was a really girly-type show and I said I would go. The next day I asked her the name of the show, and she got frusterated with me and asked why I wanted to go, said I was weird for wanting to go, and that I just don't get it. I asked what I don't get, and she told me she would tell me after she had a few beers. Then that night she tells me nothing was wrong, that she made everything up. The only thing she told me was that she had dated guys that wouldn't go this show with her, and it was odd.Then she kind of stops talking to and emailing me as much as she used to, and tells me to drop it.I don't know exactly how I feel, sometimes I like her but I'm not sure if I'm just confused because of how bad my current relationship is, like the grass is greened. I'm not even sure if I'm thinking too much about this girl, and screwing up our friendship.

Bronson · #2 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 02:20 AM

I too believe that there's a bit of serious in every comment. But to be fair you don't want to jump straight from one to the other.Would you leave your live-in if there wasn't a girly on standby?Or are you making your new friendship an excuse to leave? is your new friendship part of the reason things aren't great at home?I think you need to look more inward than to see what your new friends comment could mean. If it doesn't mean what you want are you gonna stay in your current relationship?

sarah jane · #3 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 02:08 AM

Personally, I wouldn't hang out with a guy that much unless I thought there might be something in it for me in the long run.Ask yourself this: why do you spend so much time with her, if you already have a girlfriend? Aren't you hoping for the same thing?

lama_xoxo · #4 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 11:28 AM

this girl so wants you! she was being serious and wants 2 find out if she has a chance!!