i need female advice?please help me out?

slater · #1 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:41 PM

I met this girl and dated her for about a month in a half...ive never been in love before...and i know i was with her...she felt the same way as well...i have insecurity problems and i pushed her away...now ive been trying to get her back in my life for 2 months...we finnaly had lunch last week..and it was as if i had just hung out yesterday...where planning on lunch again somtime soon..i called her 2 days after lunch and we talked...and than i called her 2 days after that...trying to make plans for us to meet up again...i feel im pushing to hard i told her i would call her on friday..and maybe we could set somthing up...from a female perspective if you are really into a guy..and he has no game with you what so ever..would you still go for him..i dont know why im over analysing everything..but everytime we talk i feel like im saying the wrong things..would that matter if the love is real..would you go for a guy you really liked even if he acted like me..

TerriKay · #2 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 07:22 PM

uh, based on all my past relationships, hell no I wouldn't look twice. But the one I'm in now started out that way and I couldn't be happier that I did him a second chance, even though it was scary. Keep trying, but if she's saying no and meaning it, then let it go.

NAN G · #3 (**permalink**) 12-16-2008, 05:04 AM

Yes, just be yourself and relax

Bug Fuggy rawr! · #4 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 02:37 AM

Yes

tmfbitu · #5 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 07:39 PM

Yeah, if I liked him I'd overlook the awkwardness. Everyone feels stupid in the early stages of love! If you didn't care, you'd be much cooler. . . but that's not a good trade-off, is it.

Shannon V · #6 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 11:59 PM

Don't try so hard just relax and be honest and have a good time. Text her from time to time and let her know you hope she has a good day so she knows your thinking about her and your not just playing games. But more then anything relax and be yourself around her.

Andrea N · #7 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 02:33 PM

love is what makes you says dumb things, don't sweat it!Call her on friday and MAKE SOME PLANS!!! you're not pushing her, just remember not to call her everyday, we hate that, at least i do

redmane_at_stargazer · #8 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 05:55 PM

The absolute best thing is honesty! Tell this girl what you just said here then ask her if she can forgive you and give you another shot. Growing up doesn't happen overnight, and mistakes will be made. She can't make any rational decision without knowing what she's really dealing with. Good Luck!

Patricia P · #9 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 12:45 AM

I'm trying to figure out what you did wrong. If you really like her (as you say you do), just tell her that you are very sorry for whatever it was that you did to push her away and ask her if you can put the relationship back on track. If she really likes you, she'll be happy to hear what you say and you'll be back on track in not time!

Mary G · #10 (**permalink**) 05-22-2009, 12:16 PM

I don't know about the others but I think it's cute when a guy gets nervous in front of girl he likes... (although not to the point that he gets sweaty with nervousness or something :lol

...why not try to ask her what she thinks of the two of you going out first and set things up? maybe she's unsure of what to do, too.