I think i'm in love. Can you help me? Female's advice needed?

bobbybobdylane · #1 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 02:59 PM

I am 15 and moving up to sixth form next year. I have been a friend with a girl in my year and many of my classes for 5 years now and i think i'm falling in love with her. :S. Having confided in my closest friend's (and her's) regarding this she has come to find out about my feelings for her. I was devastated to hear that she did not return my feelings. We are still friends and are going to the same sixth form and intend to stay friends but I can't help the way i feel. I know that i cannot make anyone love me, but would greatly appreciate any advice regarding my situation and any tips from the ladies out there that would help her to notice me more in that way.'the female's advice needed(?)'bit of the question is in fact not a question :S, lol i accidently put the mark in there. It is a statement: i really could do with some female advice

thnx

brennreyn · #2 (**permalink**) 01-12-2009, 07:28 AM

The only thing you can do is continue to be friends with this girl. It's possible that she could come around, or your feelings will fade. If you feel that it's too hard to just be friends, then some time apart from her would probably help.Good luck!!

luvbuggies · #3 (**permalink**) 01-18-2009, 09:40 AM

just be her friend. if that is not enough for you then maybe you should rethink your friendship.

saggy · #4 (**permalink**) 01-18-2009, 06:28 PM

hey sorry to hear that she doesn't think the same way as u but well from now on whenever u have some feelings for someone stop there don't imagine stuff ,i guess that's why people feel devastated when reality hits them ,get real try to know whether she has similar feelings for u before u go totally crazy for someone,try giving a hint and all about ur feelings for her and see the persons reaction ,if the other person has no such feelings then get over it in the initial stages.

Pickme · #5 (**permalink**) 03-08-2009, 07:08 AM

be a good friend, take an interest in her, don't try to impress her just show your caring,kind and loyal nature without being too clingy. All you can do is be yourself and be the best person you can be and she may notice you in time and want to be around you. you are right you can't make it happen but by being a really true and caring friend it will make her see the good side of you which may lead to something more. only time can do this for you good luck. its tough i know

Sammi D · #6 (**permalink**) 03-13-2009, 01:08 PM

your only 15 your gonna meet lots of girls but if you think she is the right girl take her out somewhere do something really special and sweet that she will never forget and if she still doesn't have the same feelings don't mess up like I did with my ex boyfriend stay friends this might sound wrong but get A new girlfriend show her off around her dangle her in front of this girl girls love to like guys when there off limits! PS the girl that you are showing off let her know whats going on so she don't tell everybody what you did to her let her in on it too

t-chained · #7 (**permalink**) 05-26-2009, 05:45 PM

to tell you the truth, just Friends means just that. You probably don't want to spoil this friendship but i understand how you feel so how about casual dating in that i mean.As"Friends,"go watch a movie or hang out at a mall better yet, to get a better response from her agreeing to the idea and not look suspicious, invite other Friends to come along and hang with you guys.while you're out there let her decide what she wants to do, like which movie she wants to watch but don't pay for it. Try this strategy for few months specially since summer is almost hear, it's a bonus since you'll not be at school and therefore could hang out more often.Be yourself but, show her your friendship side if you see that she's becoming a little more interested in you, then be extremely kind and gentle towards her and reduce your friendship level with others by spending more time with her personally but continue the regular things you guys do.When you're absolutely sure she had taken extra interest in you, take her to a dinner and at the end of your date tell her about the great time you personally had. Progressively add how she makes you feel until she actually comes to that realization and the rest will come on naturally.With that, you'll either get more closer to her or by spending more time with her, your feelings will fade and you'll be accustomed to being Friends with her.Good luck