She went red when i was asking her for help?Female advice?

Dj paul b · #1 (**permalink**) 01-11-2009, 10:01 AM

Ok ive just been up to currys i went in there looking for a new desk for my pc and i couldnt find it so i asked one of the staff for help.When i started talking to her she went red? What does this mean? She looked about 22 and quite pretty i fancied her straight away to be honest.She seemed a little excited that i was asking her for help lol.She couldnt find what i was looking for so i just said thanks for the help and left.Well the problem is that im unemployed and i am looking for work im not lazy i just cant find work i havent had a job since july last year.It gives me no confidence to ask girls out because i just know they wont be impressed if i told them im unemployed.I really liked this girl and i dont know what to do.I dont know if i should go back in there next saturday and ask her out on a date or not.This happens to me allot and its so depressing.Ive mett girl in the past who i have clicked with but my unemployment has ruined everything.Also i hate my teeth they are buckled and i need braces and i cant get them fixed unless sombody gives me a job so i can save up money to get braces.This is also ruins my confidence and it puts girls off me too,im not sure if this girl i was talking too cared but still it hurts my confidence.The thing that makes it worse is im not ugly i just have ugly teeth.Its nightmareish to be honest.I cant just meet sombody without being afraid they wont like me because of my teeth.Its been like this my whole life.Yeah ive had girlfriends but non of them lasted very long.I feel like im never going to meet anybody that loves me unless i get a job and get my teeth fixed.Its a nightmare scenario and nobody understands how i feel.I try to be confident and ignore what other people think or anything nasty that people say but its hard when some people blatantly insult me about my problem just because they can.Is it worth going back to ask her out next saturday or not?Im 27 by the wayShe's going to reject me isnt she?

Stylish Char..x · #2 (**permalink**) 01-16-2009, 10:36 AM

Go 4 it, hu cares about your teeth or your job, if girls turn u down because of them then their shallow and fussy.No harm in asking her out, if she says no then its a no, plenty of gorgeous girls out their

xXx

Jane N · #3 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 12:04 PM

if she went red then that means she likes GO for it

Vicky Pollard's Best Mate · #4 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 12:10 PM

Think stylish char...x said it all - you've nothing to lose and you had gfriends before who would have seen your teeth straight away.It's confidence and personality that attract a girl much more.

Dave · #5 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 03:50 PM

She's going to reject you because she's at work and really doesn't need customers cracking on to her while she's trying to do her job. She probably went red because a) you were staring at her or b) she was embarrassed she couldn't help you or c) it was her first day so she was nervous or d) she always goes red when talking to people or e) it was too warm in there for heror f) etcIf you're in the UK you'll get your teeth fixed for free and 27 is way too old not to get them done.If you want a job badly enough, McDonalds is always hiring. Not good enough for you? Then move somewhere else where there's work.I know how tough it can be but ANY job is better than none at all so be prepared to do anything if you REALLY want to get your life straightened out.Screw up your guts and get your life sorted, with your teeth straight, cash in the bank and a car etc you can then think of getting a girl.Good luck!

joediamond11 · #6 (**permalink**) 03-21-2009, 02:56 PM

If you don't do it you'll regret it forever.If you do it and she says yes - result!If you do it and she says no - you've lost nothing.DO IT!!!!!ps. Im accidentally responsible for the thumbs up dave has got - i did it without really reading his answer!Daves advice is wrong!Ok, she might not like you, but you HAVE to find out - that's the whole point of the dating game.She will not like you more if you've got a car and a job - she's not even going to know anything about you at the point you ask her out.What your doing is using every little thing as an excuse to do nothing.Sod the job - go and ask her out, if she says no - tough! we've all had no's - it's a part of lifeMY job?? I'm a retail manager and I KNOW girls don't go red because the heatings warm, neither have I encountered any staff that go red talking to customers.However... there are ways of doing this..DO NOT just walk up to her and ask her out.The only way to do this right is to be'looking'at another product and ask her advice on it, then you can ask some questions and get a bit of a chat going - near the end, when you've found out all there is to know about the latest Samsung LCD TV, just say how helpful shes been and would she like to go out sometime?Just make it casual and not pressurised.Forget your teeth and job - i'm a highly succesful retailer and even I've had spots of unemployment in the past.What girls don't like is losers who NEVER want to work, not somebody who is actively looking to get employment.

Cassie C · #7 (**permalink**) 05-21-2009, 06:36 PM

you sound really non-confident about the whole going back to her to ask her out thingso wait until youve sorted stuff outyou can get a job somewhere of coursethen save up for braces and get them...but then it would be a year until you felt confident and were ready to ask her...just do all that stuff and have fun, and if by the time you get your brace removed you still want her, then go get her

she may have thought you were cute like and thats why she blushed, or maybe she just blushes round a lot of guys like that...i dunno