i need major female advice (or male)?

Aaron H · #1 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 02:08 PM

im basically going to ask my ex out this week for dinner for the weekend. and i need to do it fast because this guy in her spanish class is moving in on her.should i call her tonight and say"hey let's get dinner this saturday"or should i wait until wednesday and pull her aside after class and ask?i need advice on1)when2)how3)what to say to sound casual and not desperate.thanks!(girl's what would you want to hear?)

swish30 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 05:49 AM

when? as soon as possible2. ask her face to face, it shows you got guts3. just tell her you'd like to have dinner with her, nothing major, just a casual dinner

xxluckyy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 06:46 PM

i think u should ask he ASAP just becuz she probly wont wanna go to dinner with ya if this spanish guy gets her you kno what imma saying :P

boysluvgirls · #4 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 04:33 AM

I'd ask wed.Probably by phone because it's pretty casual and you can stay calm.And I'd ask"Hey, you wanna chill this weekedn? Maybe get dinner or something?"after making small talk...I think most girls are comfortable with that...

Jimmy B · #5 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 12:40 PM

lol...so he's movin in on her huh..u better hurry up man

bellarose · #6 (**permalink**) 02-04-2009, 05:12 AM

I always think it's better to ask in person...shows you're more confident.And if you want it to seem casual, tell her you just want to hang out.

Maria Maria · #7 (**permalink**) 02-23-2009, 08:01 AM

i think it depends on how your relationship ended. If she's still talking to you and if one of you didnt cheat on the other, then just go with your gut...or heart. Whatever. That's what I'd want. Oh, and DO IT NOW BEFORE MR SPANISH CLASS MOVES IN!!! MAKE A MOVE BOY!

Lindsey D · #8 (**permalink**) 03-19-2009, 07:01 AM

I would call her tomorrow and ask her if she would like to go out to dinner. Waiting might allow time for the other guy to move in!I would say hey I was wondering if you had plan saturday night, because I'd like to take you to dinner.Br prepared to explain, especially since it's an ex. I don't know the details, but if you did the break up or you did something to cause her to break up, I'd suggest apologizing adn admitting you were wrong. If you really like her, you betta pull out all the stops, be genuine and honest.

tagara · #9 (**permalink**) 04-02-2009, 08:24 AM

Calling her on the phone and talking to her about the date in person is fine-either way.

mike 790000 · #10 (**permalink**) 04-04-2009, 07:08 AM

if she is your ex then one of y'all fuc*ed up and if it was you more than likely it over but if by some chance she takes you back this is what you do talk to her all casual and talk about the movies anything that gets her attention than you just act like you want to see it too and tell her that you are going to the movies to watch that specific movie she wants to see and tell her if she wants to hang out and dont say its a date just hanging out(beggar cant be chooser)

Eddy M. · #11 (**permalink**) 05-24-2009, 02:56 PM

Honestly? It depends on if SHE still has feelings for you! But yea! Do it tonight. Call her and if she dosn't pick up LEAVE A MESSAGE! say"Hey I was wondering if you wanted to grab dinner at (say name of place)."if she asks"like a date?"say"No, just friends talking and having dinner."because if she dosnt have feelings for you still and you do then you dont wanna freak her out. But talk to her like you'd talk casually to any of your close guy friends (but nothing to personal!!!) Good luck!!!!!!!!

carmeny · #12 (**permalink**) 05-27-2009, 09:51 AM

ok, when: face to face wednesday or sooner.How: pull her a side to ask her, make sure she isn't around friends or anyone that can start rhumors.and you can go up to her and be like:'Hey (name)! How are you? ............ Any plans for the weekend?.......... (if not).... cool! neither no di, i was wondering if you wanted to go get a bite for dinner this weekend?....... (if she accepts) ok cool! pick you up saturday at 7 (or whatever yoy want to say)......... (if she says she can't make it).... ok it's cool, just let me know when you are available. see ya round!.hope this helps you! =]