I feel totally intimidated and jealous of my best friend, advice?

Samantha J · #1 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 02:00 PM

My best friend is gorgeous, she's hardly ever single and always gets hit on, always ! She always seems to be in control of situations and it bothers everyone. I'm her only girl mate (I'm guessing no other girls like her because of all this) It's quite clear I don't compare at all to her appearance which can obviously make me pretty jealous at times. All the boyfriend's I've had have liked her before me, and when she's either done with them or just not interested then they come to me.You're probably wondering why I'm actually still her friend. Well when it's just us two (no guys around) She's a totally amazing friend.Can anyone give me any advice on how not to be soo jealous of her ?It's really bothering me lately and depressing me from even going out with her anymore.

February Sky · #2 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 02:13 PM

First stop comparing yourself to your friend. Everyone gets jealous at times but don't let it depress you. Find the good qualities in yourself and try not to concentrate so much on your friend.

BORN-2-SHOP · #3 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 02:16 PM

i think you need to tell her how you fell.she might be the same about you.just dont try to be her or do the things she does. you are you if she is a true friend she will help you fell more better around her.

Hope Z · #4 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 03:51 PM

wow.talk bout weird.ha i was JUST going through that!!what helps is that you no your gorgeous to!!cause you do still get guyseven if they might have dated her first,means they had to be interested in you if they even wanted to date you:]what you'll find out is, you gotta have to like yourself before somebody else will like you!!!walk around with confidence!!!girl you gotta no your pretty :]lolbut seriously you'll notice a difference when you start realizing that your pretty just like your friend:]

Voice of reason · #5 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 04:18 PM

I feel more sorry for her, than I do for you.She has no friends just because she's great looking?Even her so called"BFF"is jealous of her, and not wanting to hang out with her because she's pretty?No, I am not wondering why you would"even be her friend"--- I am wondering why she should be your friend when you act as if her beauty is some plague.There is no difference between people who are isolated and judged because they are ugly (Shrek) than people who are judged or isolated because they are beautiful.It's wrong either way to judge somebody for that.So,......maybe instead of thinking about how you feel around her, think about how she feels!She might be jealous that you are liked for who you are, and have other friends. She might be jealous that even if she's nice, she can never be too sure if a guy is dating her for her looks or not.I wish that people wouldn't judge for such stupidficial reasons!

happy_me605 · #6 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 04:26 PM

Ok well this is my advice all of us have our own looks not all of us are perfect not all of us are cute we dont all have good bodies but there is a man out there for each and everyone of us, it does not matter how you look when you are looking for the significant other looks should not matter and thats the truth because you could be so beautiful on the outside but what about her feelings what if she is just a mean beautiful girl and you said"she's hardly ever single and always gets hit on"do you really think guys take her seriusly or that they are wanting her for sex only and if she is never single it sounds like she has been around the block and has never had a long term relationship. You should thing about what you want not what a guy is looking for in a girl dont be jealus because as long as your partern loves you it does not matter who he likes or thinks is cute because love is love and always comes before everything else

Bethan F · #7 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 04:33 PM

your best friends great but so are you. Everyones great in there own way stop comparing yourself to her, your just as good as she is

♥B I T C H♥ · #8 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 10:27 PM

well VOICE OF REASON, its pitiful that you called yourself that because not one thing youve said is reasonable. isnt it quite obvious that she has no friends because she is beautiful. you talk about being judged based on the info youve just given but even you are judging this girl being called beautiful because, she has no friends. well arent you a bloody hypocrite. its those like you we dont need in this world. get a grip, theres more to life than that. MY ADVICE is ask her how she does it. you may be surprised that all is not about looks but is all about self confidence. KNOW THAT: you will always be who you are, no matter what people say, and you have to accept yourself for who you are. if you love yourself, then youve conquered all. jealousy is not the answer, it doesnt make you any better. instead, you should have the confidence to tell yourself that i am who i am in the end. that i am a beautiful woman no matter what they say. ever listened to christina aguilera's song - YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. its true. every woman is a beautiful woman. we are all unique. why desire to be like someone else?? in the end you are who you are and that is what makes you beautiful. be proud of yourself and the way GOD has made you. if were all alike, all the women would be named after one person, as we are alike but we are not so we have our different names as are all UNIQUE. forget your best friend, and be yourself, unique, beautiful and confident about who you are. good luck!!!!!!