How do I tell my friend to stop giving me parenting advice?
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How do I tell my friend to stop giving me parenting advice?
My friend is giving me parenting advice non stop because she's been reading a parenting book written by a Nun (of all people to talk about being a parent) and she isn't even a mom herself! I have a 2 year old who is just like every other 2 year old. She doesn't want to eat, she throws fits etc.. But anyone will tell you that I'm a great mom and that my daughter is happy and a sweetheart. I'm sick of being told"Don't feed her this, don't ever do that.. don't punish ever!"I keep thinking"Just wait until theres a dirty diaper smeared across your kitchen wall or your kid is having a tantrum in the store and you are forced to leave"I would never ever spank my daughter but my friend is going so far as to tell me never to even give time outs. Who is she to give me this advice? She's been married for barely a year and has no idea what parenting is like. She's driving me nuts!!!
I agree with you and you should bring your child up the way you think is best. Just tell your friend if she so badly want to give you advice on parenting, she should get her own child and focus her attention on how to bring up her child and not yours.
I would just politely tell her that you value her advice but you prefer to do it your own way as opposed to living life from a book. Tell her that when she has kids she'll understand. My best friend started babysitting a little boy and started giving me advice...that I wouldn't ever take. Luckily she doesn't go on and on about it. So when she gives me the not needed advice I just let it go in one ear and out another.
You just come right out and tell her. If she doesn't take the hint, ask her if she'd mind shoving that nun's book in her rear. The problem is, people feel free to give their advice out all the time, w/out being asked. It's just the way things are, unfortunately. Start advising her on something, maybe that'd help as well?
If push comes to shove tell your"friend"that you find her constant critisisum hurtful, you are after all the childs mother and it is up to you what punishment (if any) your child receives what she eats etc.. make a point in conversations to say"my son/daughter"or if that dont work break contact for a while.
If you want to keep her as a friend, just politely tell her that you appreciate her advice, but it doesn't work for your child (or whatever excuse you choose). If she doesn't have kids, tell her some things about being a parent, especially dirty diapers smeared across the kitchen wall. If you and others feel you are a good mom, just sit back and wait until she has them and give her advice that actually works.
Just don't listen to her. Ignore what she tells you.or just mention to her that you are trying out a new parenting strategy and her suggestions do not seem to go with it.
i have to put up with that all the time from my mom in law quit frankly she did a lousy job with her 3 kids i just tell her thanks for the advice but i will handle this my way she gets mad but she keeps give her opinion you will learn to block it out or tell her my kid my rules shut up
I agree with the previous answer to tell her you'll rely on your own instinct as a mom and grow your child in the way you think is right. (that way later on you won't regret taking her advice). Tell her nicely, that (if) when she has her child you would never dictate to her about raising her child, and ask her to give you that same level of respect.
Just tell her thanks for her concern but your doing just fine. Just wait when she has a baby watch out. All parents who care and do their best are great parents. No one ever born has the perfect childhood so dont worry about your baby. And if your friend persists in giving unwanted and unneeded advise cut her loose
Most likely she is trying to be helpful to you in all the wrong ways. I would say let her care for your child and her tune might change, but why punish your child for the way your friend is acting. You could talk to her about it and say, i know you are meaning well, but i need to do it the way that is working for my daughter and i.
How do I tell my friend to stop giving me parenting advice?
The problem is, people feel free to give their advice out all the time, w/out being asked. It's just the way things are, unfortunately. Start advising her on something, maybe that'd help as well? 
