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need friend advice asap please dont be rude just need some simple advice?
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Old 12-18-2008, 05:55 PM
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okay im gonna give you some history first so you dont get confused and you can fully understand my situation. i have been best friends with my best friend for a little over 4 years. we've had our share of problems but no matter what we have always been there for eachother in the end. about a year ago a friend of hers from school started coming around a lot. Let me tell you their names so you dont get confused Amy is my best friend and Jenny is her friend. Anyways me and jenny started becoming very close we were always on the phone always hanging out any chance we got. amy started realizing the friendship i was building with her and started to not speak to amy anymore. she eventually ended the friendship with her for idk what reason she never has given me a straight answer why she started not to like her. so as her friendship ended with jenny, ours got stronger. at first amy was okay with the fact that i was friends with jenny. but then one day she gave me an ultimatum she made me choose either her or jenny. i chose amy. BUT i continued to be friends with jenny behind amy's back. they were like my two best friends. i really never got a long with someone so quick and well the way i did with jenny. at one point amy found out that i had a friendship with jenny. she ended our friendship immediately, we did not speak for about a couple of months. during those couple of months me and jenny continued to get closer and closer. at one point amy came back in the picture claiming that she had missed me and stuff. but she said that the only way she will be friends with me again would be if i stopped being friend with jenny. i agreed i stopped being friends jenny about a couple of weeks later. now lets forward to today. mine and amys friendship hasnt been great for the past few months. she is constantly always with one girl and when me and her had became friends again she said that she will never call me or text me that i needed to always text her first or call her. we hardly talk through out the day unless if i text or call her first. now my question and the part that i need advice is that recently i started to miss jenny a great deal i miss that friendship that i had with her...now is it really worth risking my friendship with my best friend for a person that ive known for about 2 years and never did anything but be there for me? please dont be rude i just need some advicei told amy yesterday about the situation and she did not take it well. she ended our friendship just the way i had said. she made me choose and i told her that i wasnt making the decision that based on her actions she was making the decisions for both of us. its like i do care about amy, but i cannot let anyone dictate my life if anyone is going to control it other than myself it will be my parents.

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Old 12-19-2008, 12:52 AM
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okay wow! Well lemme c if I can help. I say that amy isn't a true friend even thought u knew her before jenny. U shoudnt let other ppl decide who ur friends r and u shouldt end a good friendship just becuz someone else told u to. I would try to tell amy how u feel and maybe startt hanging out with jenny again since u were such great friends. Hope everything works out!!
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Old 12-19-2008, 07:56 AM
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Amy is very insecure and shows it in her dominance and threats. Anyone who threatens friendship because of you being friends with others is someone who is very worried and insecure about herself. You have to follow your heart and do what you think is right. You need to be friends with people who make you better as a person and not criticize you for that. Jenny sounds like a good friend. This happened to me and I lost some good friends over one friend. Now that the person is no longer my friend I am free to be friends with whomever I want and that is a freedom unlike any other.
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Old 12-19-2008, 12:48 PM
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Kaylets start here.i wont be rude.but Amy should get over itand i think you should ask Amy what happened with her and Jenny.If its somehting like Jenny burned down her house and killed her parents and he dog,then i undersatnd why it would bother her if you and Jenny hang out, but if its just somehitng like she stole my pencil, then she needs to get over it.
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Old 12-24-2008, 02:06 AM
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...... think rationally and decide.

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