I'm running out of things to tell her friend advice?

Kimbree♥ · #1 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 11:45 PM

She was in a relationship for 3 years. He left her for a arranged marriage in Pakistan. She hasn't been eating, sleeping, going out. We've been talking on the phone for 3 +hours straight. I also visit her once a week. I tell her she's beautiful, and smart. He also left her last X-mas. Advice?

Love Canada · #2 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 09:09 PM

Stop!Don't talk about him or anything related to him, do not help her wallow in miseryGo out and meet new people

curious · #3 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 10:18 AM

The best advice is to advise her to go seek professional counseling, it sounds more like depression which she needs expert advice and medication. You might also try to talk her into joining a dating site, and state she is only looking for a friend and don't settle for the first guy that asks her out, make it a rule not to become involved with anyone certain person till after she has been dating for at least 1 year, different people

Katie M · #4 (**permalink**) 01-10-2009, 06:24 AM

As bad as this may sound, you should tell her that she needs to be strong and that it is unhealthy to let someone have so much influence on her. Say that you understand he meant a lot to her but things happen for a reason and I trully believe that. If she is religous at all encourage her that god will handle things the way he does for a reason.As a friend you can only do so much you know? I was young when i first fell in love and got heart broken and it literally tore me apart but what I relized was that I made him so much apart of my life that my world revolved around him and I did not know how to live without him...and it sounds like she is going through something simular... journaling really helped me get out emotion but encourage to pick up some hobbies and things that will take her mind off of it and realize what she can learn from all of it!!!hope that helps!