How can I help my friend get excited about her pregnancy?

jenny c · #1 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 03:16 AM

My friend just turned 26, her husband is 25. She got pregnant unexpectedly and had a little girl 4.5 years ago. Her and her husband got married soon after and they are very happy. Their second daughter is 8 months old, she took a year and a half to conceive.My friend was using condoms after their youngest daughter’s birth, but got pregnant 3-4 months after giving birth! She is now 20 weeks along and isn’t very happy about the pregnancy. She is a SAHM, and they just moved out a state and her husband started a new job. She said she was not physically or emotionally ready for another baby and after this one they are not having anymore. Her husband was upset at first but now is happy to have another baby.She finds out today what they are having, I am trying to help her get excited by helping her look for baby stuff and assure her everything will be okay because their first baby was unplanned and its has turned out great.What else can I do to help her out?

Ash · #2 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 08:22 PM

throw her a baby shower with lots of fun and games! that would make me feel better!

POOKIE · #3 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 03:01 AM

Let her be for now... take her only if she wants to go looking at baby stuff. This is mostly hormonal, and it will probably get better for her, but give her more time. Best thing is to let her talk out her feelings with you. Let her talk, just listen. Anyone who makes her feel guilty about not being happy will just make it harder for her. You sound like a great friend, good luck

pg#3 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 08:26 PM

She will get the happy bug soon she should but that could be a lil stressful at least she got a hubby stickin by her just u go and check on her every now and then

brainy_ostrich · #5 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 02:16 PM

I think looking for baby stuff is a good idea. Take her shopping. Do something fun with her AND her kids so that she can be reminded how great it is for her to be a mom. As soon as she finds out boy/girl throw a party with lots and lots of pink or blue, not a baby shower but a congratulations party. Also with a new baby already she is going to be under a lot of stress. Offering to watch the kids for a couple hours while she takes a long bath or gets her nails done or something like that would also be a way that you could support her.

shomu r · #6 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 08:50 PM

Its is very tough wat ur friend is goin thru.. Must b really hard actually..physically, mentally and emotionally vey draining for somebody like her, where these days life is very fast and demanding..Keep your friends hope high and make her beleive that WHAT EVER HAPPENS HAPPENS FOR THE GOOD.. and TRUST IN GOD.

Keep smiling with her always and as she is mother she would know the joy of having a baby.. So just support her mentally and emotionally..coz Ladies r physically strong

morelli26 · #7 (**permalink**) 05-17-2009, 08:30 PM

Allow her to feel as she does. Don't force her into some fake emotion. When she's ready to feel the excitement, she'll tell you. It might even take until the baby's born, but not everyone is super-excited to be pregnant, and there's nothing wrong with that.